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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/25065914

I'll never be more than a fetish to people

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My dream is to have someone—anyone—see me as more than just a friend. To have someone who wants me, in more than just a sexual way. That dream haunts me.

The only attention I receive is from Grindr. I see my worth as how much I can starve myself to stay thin. I figure at least if I’m petite, pervs online will want to use me as part of their fetish. I oblige them because they desire me in those fleeting moments. After they get what they want, they never contact me again. That is my value as a person.

I’m so insecure, so unconfident. I see people like my best friend, who can get any guy she wants without even trying, and I have only envy and resentment. What’s worse, I think I have feelings for her, unrequited love that will only serve to hurt more as she explores her new life as a single woman.

I've not been able to exercise for 3 days and I feel flat AF. I've kept busy doing work, chores, fun stuff etc but still flat.

Hello I'm 21/male and I'm very sensitive and I get easily hurt by mean people.

I don't understand why there are so many mean people everywhere in both the real world (like my parents etc.) and online like Reddit/Lemmy.

All I do is exist and ask genuine questions but people criticize the way I talk, live and call me a troll, stupid etc. People online even told me they would be happy if I kill myself.

I fundamentally don't understand why people are so evil in the first place? Why would they wanna hurt anyone? I could never. If I ever accidentally hurt someone in the slightest I would feel so bad/miserable and do my best to apologize and make it right.

These experiences are the reason why I have fundamental mistrust against humanity and have paranoia towards people.

Especially when I'm interested in another country/culture and hope people might be better there it's a big disappointment when they're mean and cruel towards me online cause it makes me feel like many people in that coun

People in Lemmy 😠 prevented me from using hashtags #️⃣ in my Lemmy posts, as well as emojis 😂. This is not fair 😡 because this is social media 🎉, not Rt 🤮. Rt is capitalist 💰. Lemmy is interconnected 🔗 with multiple servers. I am stressed 😩 being on Lemmy because the diversity and variety of each Lemmy user's traits and preferences are not respected 🤔. Although no one on Lemmy likes me for who I am 💔, I will continue to use hashtags #️⃣ and emojis 😂 in my Lemmy posts 💪. I am not the product 🏭 of the Lemmy community. I am a separate human being 🧍‍♀️, and my handle is @kaerypheur on lemmy.world 🌐. #Lemmy #Fediverse #HashtagBan #EmojiRights #FreeExpression #NotYourProduct #kaerypheur #LemmyWorld #FediverseFreedom #NoCensorship #SocialMediaMyWay #DecentralizedButDivided #YouDontOwnMe #PlatformProblems #RespectMyStyle #HumanNotAlgorithm #FediBlock #FediverseStress #RebelPosting #StayWeird

Hoping that this doesn't get too long (spoiler: it got long). Not sure where else to dump all of this. It was either here or the non-binary community because I might mention aspects of that. I feel like most of my problems are self inflicted, so I'm not even looking for sympathy or even acknowledgment here, just a space to put this shit out into the world, for whatever that might help.

I am stuck and have been for years now. My 20s were spent fucking around and my 30s have been mostly spent wishing I'd done a little less fucking around in my 20s. I dropped out of varsity and something one could call a stable career for stupid fantasies and life has pretty much just been chaos and uncertainty since then. Especially financial security.

And I'm stuck in this world now. Taking whatever unskilled blue collar back breaking soul sucking job I can get. That I never last too long in. And actually I've been unemployed and making scraps from odd jobs for a little too long now. And that's not ev

Hello, thanks for taking the time to read this. I hope that my SO can read some of your responses and realize that shes not crazy, and Its a major issue with alot of us.

She is 25 and has debilitating social anxiety, She is working on it and making good progress. She has a small group of friends online and talks to them regularly, plays games with them and ever since she started talking to them Ive noticed a huge upswing in her moods and demenor. Lately shes been trying to branch out and meet more people in other online spaces.

She has expressed to me that people seem to just know something is different about her, or they seem to interact with her differently than everyone else. I tried to explain (from my perspective) as a fairly autistic individual (undiagnosed cant afford). That yes people can just sense neurodivergency, and will treat us differently. however I, being raised by extremely extroverted parents am very good at masking.

She, on the other hand doesnt "feel right" hid

Anything troubling you?

I’m feeling completely disoriented and stunned and just….having a time processing everything. The digital world is changing too quickly. It feels like the ground has turned into lava. Maybe I’m not the only one feeling this way.

I'm a US Citizen btw. (but I'm not white)

Whenever I talk or interact with people I feel I don't talk like a "normal" person would nor I feel other people's feelings towards me are positive.

Their interactions with me seem always cold and superficial and it's not their fault. I told that to my psychologist, even asking whether I may be autistic or suffer from other conditions. She said I don't, but heavy neglect affected me when I was a kid and it's not possible for me to become like others, I can just work on myself. The problem is that I don't know how to work on this. I really wish for somebody to point out evey mistake I make when I talk to them so I can know what I'm doing wrong.

Sorry it's probably just venting but I genuinely got tired of that.

For me it wasn't till the depression got overwhelming when I was 23.