southsamurai

You can't help others if you don't take care of yourself.

So, you can't take care of others' shit if you don't take care of your own shit first.

Which is a valuable lesson I learned while wiping asses for a living while having IBS. It just happens to apply here as well

southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 23h ago

I mean, life...

southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 1d ago

Most of the time. There's rare exceptions. It's the old "if your only tool is a hammer" thing.

Sadly, part of those are just not wanting to take on a high risk patient at all.

But there are surgeons that will give advice based on the actual patient needs and recommend other treatments, and outright refuse to do a surgery.

But, yeah, surgeons in general assume that a patient coming to them needs surgery. That's partly because they don't tend to get patients walking in the front door independently. They're going to be seeing patients referred to them by someone else that thinks surgical intervention is a possible best choice.

They're also trained to think like surgeons. Once they're into training as a surgeon, they learn the human body, and thus the application of medical science, as something that gets operated on. Every problem becomes one to address in that way because they've spent years shaping their minds to be very good at that.

It's really no different in that regard than an it guy thinking of a computer problem in terms of their specialty, or a mechanic wanting to rebuild something that might be fine with a spray of wd40 and some duct tape.

Hell, surgeons regularly have to deal with patients insisting on a surgery when other modalities are more appropriate. It's a thing they gripe about

southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 1d ago

I mean, you can eat them both

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 1d ago

Might want to update your displayed naming. It's still got any/any as the gender tags.

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2d ago

One massive problem. Trying up find where you import your library, and it isn't detectable with five minutes of looking. That should be the first, easiest thing to find

southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2d ago

Gavin Newsome needs to suck the peanuts out of my poo

southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2d ago

Damn, I thought sharkey was dead!

Glad to see it isn't :)

southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2d ago

Ngl, there's still plenty of assholes in the current crop of under 30s and under 20s.

But, yeah, there's a lot more of this kind of acceptance and decency. It's a beautiful thing to see. I got to see a similar wave of change back in the nineties with gay people, men in specific, where the millennials were essentially defaulting to acceptance or outright active support. For my generation, we had a longer road to divest ourselves of outdated thinking, so watching acceptance spread was a different experience than watching the next generation just grow up without as much baggage.

Again, no generation has ever, or will ever, be a monolith of bottled belief. But it does seem like the curve of decency on average is looking really damn good right now.

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2d ago

Have you heard the original Dolly Parton version of I will always love you? She's got a less forceful voice in general, and her version was a much gentler delivery on top of that.

Not saying anything about you liking or not liking the song, just curious if it's Whitney that's the problem, the arrangement, or the song itself.

southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2d ago

Honestly, I tend to be pretty capable of tolerating songs I don't like. It's artists and a small range of genres that give me trouble.

About the only song I can think of that comes close was that first backstreet boys song. Can't remember the name, but it was the one that was all over the radio from their first album.

I liked other songs, but that one was such a generic pile of dreck that it came close to being intolerable from the beginning, and eventually got there. But even that, at first, it was just something I didn't like and disliked strongly, but I could sit through it if necessary. It took a week or two before it reached nails-on-chalkboard levels.

Now, genre wise, contemporary christian just grates on me. Even the songs that are otherwise almost listenable suffer from the bland composition and empty lyrics that make them annoying. Since I've also dealt with people in the industry around the genre, including performers, knowing that those lyrics are utter bullshit to the vast majority of the idiots singing them makes it a very unpleasant thing.

CC suffers from the same cookie cutter writing that Nashville country does, but lacks the redeeming qualities of at least being catchy if you don't pay attention to the lyrics.

Which, cookie cutter country isn't something I can handle a lot of at once. But I can tolerate it.

Then again, I listen to death and black metal regularly, so I know damn good and well that what one person can enjoy is abrasive to others, and vice versa. So I tend not to judge the listener by what they listen to.

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2d ago

I find this more motivational than the way it was supposedly meant to be read

Queer up!

southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 3d ago

Familiar

So, mint with cinnamon

southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 3d ago

Well, the key word is usually

Late term vanishing twin syndrome is a thing. It comes with its own set of issues as well. Since its also extremely rare, you'd have to be some kind of nerd to know it exists unless you're an obgyn or at least a maternity nurse. I am neither an obgyn or a maternity nurse.

When it happens late term, and 7 months is very late term for it, you get an increased rush of complications, some of which can negatively impact the development of the remaining fetus. Hell, from what I remember, late term absorption tends to happen because there's something going wrong already. Iirc (and don't try to cite me on a test or anything), just being a little too cramped can trigger it, though it would be a very rare trigger for an already absurdly rare thing.

So, my best guess as a non doctor with zero access to the records of the pregnancy in question is that something happened to put the pregnancy at risk, and either your mom's body or yours set off the cascade leading to the failure of the other fetus. It isn't something that happens that late without some triggering event that's outside of a normal pregnancy. When it happens early on, it's a different story, it can happen for no detectable reason at all. But late term? Something went wrong that made it happen.

I'd have to go digging, and I'm currently brain fried, but one of the more common triggers worldwide is/was malnutrition. When the mother isn't getting resources to grow both critters, either her body shifts to support one exclusively, or one of the two essentially cannibalizes the other. That one (again, I'm old and tired, so the iirc factor is iffy here) is most likely to happen when the twins share a placenta, or something like that (see, old man brain missing details).

Since you've said in comments that you were placed in an unusual orientation and/or location, that would point to some kind of issue with the uterus not having enough room for both fetuses (fetii? I think I like that better despite it not being duet correct lol). I seem to recall a case in India where a woman prone to twins had a pregnancy where this happened because her uterus had lost the ability to stretch the way they normally do. Something about scar tissue maybe? Been ages since I read about this stuff.

Anyway, late term vanishing twin syndrome is the terminology I know of. If there's another, more formal terminology, iam not aware of it.

southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 3d ago

It's a reference to a movie of the same name.

The gist is that at one point, Sophie is forced to choose which of her children die.

southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 3d ago

https://sh.itjust.works/comment/23942074

They said it better than I can

But I also get where you're coming from; the prompt itself is weak and leaves several assumptions out that would make better answers possible from an llm.