I mean, I did say for a pope there.

And it's possible to be flawed and still have compassion. Should he have done better? Absolutely. But he was better than the pope before him, and the one before that, alllll the way back.

It's okay to recognize the good in a person while also recognising the bad.

However, this is c/lemmybewholesome and it wouldn't have been appropriate for me to bring up the bad in a top level comment.

It's fine in child comments, imo, but if a community is geared around things being uplifting and positive, a top level comment should stay focused on those things. It's one of those things where if I have to say something that drags down the overall thread, I shouldn't say it at all. So I focused on the good side of things.

And, again, I did say that he was decent for a pope. I acknowledged that he had flaws indirectly in as friendly a way as possible by phrasing things that way

Ngl, some of us cis folk hold back because we aren't sure if happiness is wanted as a response.

Now me? I'm a dumbass with little or no filter when I don't have prep time, so the first person I ever knew that got top surgery and told me about it ahead of time, my response was "no shit? About damn time."

Like, c'mon dude, show a little damn restraint before opening your yap, maybe read the room before responding like that. What if the dude had been scared and looking for medical advice or something, and now he's worried about opening up about that fear. Luckily, it was the right response, but it could have been boneheadly inappropriate.

I'd pretend I'd never be that thick again, but I don't like lying.

Yeah, he really was decent for a pope. And I think he might have been more decent as a pope if he had his way entirely. He really seemed like he wanted more compassion and change than he was able to make happen.

Yeah, the first fancy bidet I ran across, I was the same way. It was at a friend's house, and they were giving me hell about playing with it after I was in there for a good twenty minutes.

How can you not try everything out?

I mean, if it gets solved, leaving it up would be better, particularly if the reason for it is something that might happen to someone else

I mean, I asked, I didn't call, then I said if

There really is a difference

Could be :)

Yeah, this is one of those things where it just happens to not work for you. Running in specific; you may well get those nice chemicals and a sense of improved self worth from something else.

It's pretty unusual tbh, but not so rare that it isn't a matter that's had some research into it.

Part of it is supposedly the physical; you just aren't stressing the body enough to trigger the cascade of chemicals. And there's nothing you can do about that part because you're just one of those lucky buggers that can run without major physical effects in the short term.

But there's also a mental side of things. If the exercise doesn't distract you enough, you're in a situation where all you can do is think, and your thoughts aren't healthy, so you reinforce them.

It sucks, and I'm sorry you didn't get relief from what is an amazing level of sustained effort on your part. But there are other forms of exercise that should help at least a little. You just have to avoid endurance sports like running. Strength training, maybe yoga, martial arts, anything where you're doing something intense for a half hour to an hour with changes rather than sustaining an effort over the time.

Legit question, but that's a no for me.

While it's partly that it's not really useful, and makes other features a better priority, it's also partly because it would make people that think influencer is a valid job title plague lemmy.

Neither of those is worth casual curiosity

Ehhhhh, kinda difficult to pick.

I have both in my house, in different bathrooms. Hands free is nice because it's all lazy and easy, but it actually takes longer by a little bit.

The handheld is faster, and has a nice massage effect. However, there's more overspray, even with the kind I have that's focused rather than just a repurposed sink sprayer like I've run into, and tried.

So I think I err on the side of handheld overall, but I have used seat based ones that had a lot of settings that were really nice, like oscillating spray, pulses, etc. They aren't just about it being nice, they make the job quicker too, countering the flaw most of them have.

Look, we've all been banging linux for years and years, we're all siblings via injection at this point, so I say we skip the ceremony, put on our thigh highs and just have an orgy instead

You aren't going to get many genuine answers, I suspect. Not because of stupidity or it being obvious, because I don't think it's either.

It's because lemmy isn't secure forum. Too easy for things to be found and any responses are used to get rid of. So any stupidity would come from giving anything other than a fake "I follow all laws, but object to X laws".

Which, I follow all relevant laws, even when I object to them.

However, I have my own moral code, and would adhere to that regardless of whether or not there were laws perfectly aligned with them. It does not match the majority, except in the broad issues, but it isn't so far off as to be incompatible either.

Most of my personal code is derived eternally at the end, but some parts were discovered externally. In other words, when running into a moral or ethical rule, I examine it and internalize it if it fits my needs, reject it if it doesn't. Some bits and pieces are purely internally derived in origin, as they stemmed from experience in childhood before I encountered external sources regarding those matters.

Thing is, my personal morals aren't necessarily something I expect others to follow just because I believe something is morally right/wrong. That's part of my code; that until someone else's code interferes with mine, or someone else's, life, IDGAF, it's their business. When it isn't my life being interfered with, my code doesn't automatically decree that I need to do anything about it, but it does allow for intervening when the situation makes it useful, necessary, or just desirable.

I'll use shoplifting as an example. If I see someone stealing from a chain store like walmart, I didn't see them. If I see someone lifting from a small shop that's locally owned, my code gives me options ranging from informing them they've been seen and need to leave, all the way up to beating their ass if I feel that is the appropriate response to the specific situation. However, it also allows me to ignore it if I feel that's more appropriate.

See? Not like the majority, but it's not so far off as to be unrecognizable.

Part of that is that I firmly believe that all ethics are situational (and they are), and that morals can be situational as well. There are very few things I believe in so strongly on a moral level that there's no room for them to bend when unusual circumstances occur.

Pretty much the only thing I'm fully, 100% unbending on is bigotry. Won't put up with it, won't tolerate it. That being said, I'm still aware that what is and isn't bigotry isn't perfectly defined. There's blurring at the edges, specific cases where what seems like bigotry may be a language barrier, or a cultural barrier. And that, unfortunately, some of those edge cases aren't even universally decided on by the targets if various forms of bigotry. So I can only rely on my own sense of right and wrong when it isn't clear cut.

That means that when I encounter an unusual situation, I'm more likely to seek clarification before jumping in, and that I'm more likely to jump in by explaining why what they're saying/doing is a problem, even if they aren't being a bigot intentionally.

You see alllll that rambling? That's the kind of shit that I do in my head any time I run into a new moral dilemma, or discover a need to reevaluate an old belief. Which can be pretty fucking often. I don't like to let my code sit unexamined for long, so I poke and prod at it when a specific subject comes up, even if it's nothing I need to do anything about. You run into that a lot online.

Such a mammalian post rolls eyes and licks them

Mastodon on my pen name.

Piefed for the hell of it.

Used to use one of the "key" forks, but the instance I was on shut down, and I never went back.

Haven't really bothered with the rest because they don't fit any needs, and tend to be based around things that aren't my personal interests enough to use regularly. Peertube, I'll never put videos up, but I use it when other people link to it.

That's really it. I don't want/need the kind of services friendica is for, nor whatever the name of the Instagram clone is, and loops is totally not my thing.

I don't have anything against them, mind you, I just don't use those kind of platforms

No, extroverts and ambiverts have trouble with interrupters too.

In a work environment, I find it best just to say I'm having trouble keeping up, and could first person please continue. Most of the time, it's gonna work fine

Ikr?

Tbh, both of my main jobs had some serious suck involved, and not the fun kind

Nurse's assistant and bouncer.

The work in nursing was very fulfilling in a lot of ways, but I've had ever body fluid there is on me, been peed and pooped on on purpose, hit, cursed, and dealt with all kinds of horror on every level. Part of my PTSD comes from that job.

Another part comes from bouncing. I worked multiple places, but some of those were LGBTQ spaces, in the 90s, in the south. The level of violence was disgusting. I had people try to kill me, my coworkers, and customers. I damn near killed a couple of people trying to prevent the assholes from hurting others.

However, like nursing, there was still plenty of satisfaction and fulfillment in doing the work, even when it wasn't at LGBTQ spaces. I got a lot of fulfillment bouncing at strip clubs, and not in the sexual way. Strippers deal with a lot of bullshit, and being part of keeping them from the worst of that felt very good. A lot of those ladies (and gentlemen, male strippers deal with some heavy harassment too) burn out fast because of the misogyny and the customers that think the rules don't apply to them. It was nice to be able to show them that there are people that can treat them with respect and decency without wanting to get in their pants.

Now, if you want to talk about the worst of the bad parts, I worked in nursing homes the first part of my years doing that. One in particular was on what's called a skilled unit, where the patients run high to dementia and severe disability. That's where the worst of the worst happened. The other facilities I worked in, I would rotate between units, but at this specific place, it was always on that skilled unit.

Just wall to wall misery. Every patient lost in their own heads, or locked in a body that couldn't move, but still conscious and hurting. And you can't really help them. They aren't going to get better, they aren't going to go home, they're just stuck there until they die.

Then, while trying to make their lives less bad, the administration is full of shit, cutting corners, treating staff like dirt, making decisions that make life worse for the patients too. Just some of the worst people I ever had in charge at any job.

I sometimes look back on all of that and wonder how I lasted as long as I did without cracking up inside. I made it long enough that my body broke before my mind fell apart. I'm not sure how, and I came damn close pretty much yearly sometimes, even after I moved to home health care. I would ride the edge of burning out and falling apart, and it was only the fact that I could do other things that would keep me from falling over.

I could take a week off here and there, rely on side gigs to keep me afloat long enough to recover a little. I had hobbies and friends. It kept me going, mostly

Makes sense to me. There's a lot to be said for specialists handling bulk labor like that. Someone with experience will do it faster, and better, so even were you inclined to raise for meat to save a little cost vs labor, it might not make sense to for exactly that reason.

We have pets, the eggs are just a side benefit. I keep thinking about adding a few working girls what with egg prices, but not only is that a big bump in labor, it's a big outlay for setting up for that. Since our two provide enough for us, I just can't see gearing up on a hypothetical that I could provide for friends and family.

I love the silly little critters though :)

No worries, you aren't required to have perfect English :)

I guarantee your English is better than anything else I speak.