My default was always active listening. It took me a while to develop real skill at it, then longer for it to no longer be something I had to turn on.
There's exceptions of course, but most people that are expressing emotion publicly do just want a chance to vent and be heard, no matter what that emotion is. Anger, grief, confusion, fear, whatever it is, just having someone gently say "hey, I can see you're having a rough patch, can I help?" Is all it takes usually.
Sometimes, you might have to go further, draw out the personbehind the emotion. Sometimes, they don't want to be bothered at all, and just couldn't find somewhere private before they broke. In that case, you'd be surprised how often they still pull themselves together for someone offering real support, and you can then guide them somewhere they can break down alone, if that's what they really want.
But mostly, just being present, really listening and giving just enough feedback that they know you're paying attention instead of just being a fencepost, it helps.
But tears? That's easy. If they're giving you those tears, you accept them as the gift they are. Especially if someone breaks through the usual barriers with strangers and reaches for physical comfort, you just give them that shoulder and make soft noises while supporting them. If they aren't in contact, extend a hand, just a hand, to where they can reach it if they want to, but not so far it becomes insistent. Then you just listen and let their tears wash away enough of the raw emotion until they can talk.
At some point, most people wind down a little and start apologizing. When you give them a genuine smile and say something akin to "hey, it's okay, we all have to look out for each other", or "it's okay, we're in hospital, it's gotta come out sometime; I'm just glad I was here to listen". If that's a genuine thing, if you mean a sentiment like that, it's like aloe on a sunburn. It doesn't fix the problem, but it takes the edge off long enough to regather and cope just a little while longer.
I've been on both sides of it. Hell, three different sides: patient, family member, and caregiver. There's no single,perfect path through it, but someone even trying to help and fucking up is still a great balm











Truth is that whole wheat just doesn't rise as much because it can't.
The whole part of whole wheat is bran. Wheat bran is sharp. Which r is not great for rise since those sharp little bits are poking holes in the bubbles that make bread rise. It's a pain in the ass.
Best solution I found for true whole wheat that didn't involve adding things in that would make it a blend instead was switching to a gentler kneading method and not working it beyond the bare minimum needed to get gluten going.
Check out King Arthur flour's website though, they have whole wheat recipes that work very well because they've been built around the reality of it from the begging beginning