i followed ypur advice, now ill see
thats true but i guess I'll have to be patient. I realized long ago that the blue moon comes when you don't expect it, every time
very unlikely ill find someone else, im not very confindent about that. Since this happens once in a blue moon for me. Dating has always been very hard for me
she followed me and i accepted, then followed her back, sent a message and an image related to the infodump we shared on tinder (a pic of an okonomiyaki), and she never responded
but then im afraid of coming off as annoying or even creepy. I dont want to break her barriers just bc i want to talk to her, maybe she needs some time. I wrote her and she didnt even respond
two days
hairy situation with dating
context: i met this girl on tinder who's is on the spectrum, we talked for a bit and then exchanged our ig accounts, but she hasnt replied since. I dont understand what happened, if shes just busy, needs time or lost interest. I have no way to tell and im too scared to ask. What should I do?
peculiar interaction i had with a friend
yesterday i visited a friend and we were talking about stuff, and i involuntarly interrupted him and started infodumping and stuff. When he told me he wasnt finished i felt so ashamed and i apologized, then he said "don't worry about it. I know that you don't do it with bad intent. You're autistic and i don't mind that much when you do it. I understand that sometimes you have these moments where you go off talking about stuff. You have a disabilty and that's ok, don't fret" (paraphrased from italian, the message i got was this) and for the first time, i felt understood and it made me very happy. I'm lucky to have such a good and understanding friend.
comfy
their reasoning disregards their own rules, i admit that i did this out of anger and i may have come off as if i was making drama but it was not like that. The thing is I started making ruckus on the server bc i genuienly felt this needed to be called out. I'm very against things like autismspeaks for reasons listed on the post above. The disconnect from the identity crisis and the interaction is due to the fact that the argument was not about my identity crisis but the fact they didn't abide by their own rules and ignored many points I've made
submitted
r/autism mods banned me for speaking out
CONTEXT: in r/autism there is a rule that prohibits autismspeaks propaganda to be shared. That's because autismspeaks is a literal eugenics organization that only cares to eradicate autistic people and find a "cure" to autism (which is an anti-scientific take as you can't cure autism and it's been known for a long time to be just a different kind of brain structure)
ok now that we got that out of the way here's the story:
I had a little identity crisis about my diagnosis (lvl 1 autism) and vented about it expressing my anxiety on the topic, and then a user replied inferring that i was self-diagnosed and sent some articles showing the raads-r (the test i took with my specialized psychologist) not being accurate: one of these studies was funded by autismspeaks (which is not allowed by the rules of the same server) so I told the mods about it. These are the logs
the last part isn't surprising
autism considerations
Im in yippieee mode rn, in spite of recent events. Or because of them. I really connected with my autism these last few days. Being in autism communities really showed me what it looked like for me. I love connecting with my autism and discover parts of myself that weren't that apparent to me or i didn't know about.
Through the r/autism incident i learned about my strong sense of justice and my commitment to do things that are right to me, like pushing through for something i believe is right. I couldn't sit and watch something as heinous as that which happened there and even though I was fighting alone i was relentless on calling out the indifference of the mods there. I pushed through, lost sleep, got picked apart, got my posts taken down and i was still uploading them even though it was obvious i was gonna lose, i still pushed through bc i was hoping people would pick up on it and realize what happened was unacceptable. The mods didn't scare me, the bans didn't scare me and when i
thank you, i'll submit the story tomorrow
im no longer on reddit, also the guy who picked on me was from that sub as well
yeah things like that get stuck with me sometimes, i can totally relate
lots of cattle
i didn't know that
letting people share autismspeaks funded articles without repercussion, not only is it against the rules but also damages autistic people, and i couldn't let that slide
To me it's like this. I'm fairly good at learning languages from my language family bc they share very similar patterns, eg. I've learned some Portuguese just by hearing it without studying the grammar and I'm fairly decent at it. Though I also learned japanese which is a tough nut to crack bc it has a lot of social nuances and patterns that don't exist in romance languages: I started when I was 13 and I'm still studying it only having reached a good level a few years ago.
yeah also no entitled mods here so that's a plus
is vent related to chicken laying eggs?
i don't like the idea of a community that big setting a precedent like this. Then ofc I'm staying here bc it's much better, but i feel like this is a big problem, bc ppl are more prone to flock to that cesspool and thus getting exposed to autismspeaks propaganda and redditors. Im gonna take my benzos bc I'm really agitated about this
THEY BANNED ME
the mods of r/autism banned me for repeatedly calling them out on their bullshit bc they wouldn't address it. It's incredible, no matter the neurotype, mods are always the same hypocritical powertripped manchildren who never take accountability bc they think they are god for managing a subreddit. I pity them really, and i can proudly say that for all that is worth, that even if i have my problems at least I'm not one of those pathetic slobs.
XAO! AX CHEPANAX ANNA KEIA GOSTROÍ
this is gonna be a long post about a conlang ive constructed, which is a mix of another language ive made. The setting is the ficticuous island of Sabokania, situated between the azores and cabo verde. So here it goes:
INTRODUCTION the Romaniekeia is a language spoken in the Metorina region. Due to european migrations from the mediterranean in the XVI century the region has experienced a linguistic mix between various romance languages and the local dialect of the warabo. The language borrows characteristics from both mother-languages such as grammar, vocabulary and phonetics. In the transcription of the language the latinization method will be the one used for ruchi languages. 1- SENTENCE STRUCTURE Romaniekeia is SVO, like most romance languages. eg. mea chineo romaniekei tasak l'è a meaas keia I speak romaniekeia because it's my language
- Personal pronouns Mea=I/Me Tea=you Lia=he/she/it (lia is a gender neutral pronoun) for the plural form of these pronouns the language borrow
VENT WARNING
A LITTLE VENT I was on reddit on the r/autism and i read something on the rules that made me doubt my autism (that the raads-r is not a reliable tool for diagnosis, but i accidentally glossed over the part that said "unless the results are evaluated in a clinical setting", which happened in my case) and this user came and said that the RAADS (which is not the test i took) and the AQ (autism quotient, which i never took) have a high false positive rate, followed by, get this, links from a paper funded by autism speaks and old research. When i first read their reply i explained in the greatest detail i could the proocedings of my diagnosis, but then when i called my older brother (he's kinda my anchor in this chaos that is my life and even assisted me during the diagnostic process) he reassured me that my diagnosis is valid because it was interpreted by a professional clinician and helped me sort it out. That's when i found out that the papers the redditor sent were either pretty old in
how strong is your echolalia?
in my case i have a very strong internal echolalia, as in i get stuck with a phrase or a specific thought, song, word, ecc... which i find very annoying, though I dont know about external echolalia, I never noticed
just wanna say hi
hi, I'm an italian 22yo with level 1 autism and ADHD, recently diagnosed. I just joined and wanted to have a place where I'm understood. I hope we get along well :D