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  • Not the person you asked, but the industry is horribly unethical. Pornhub hosted and made good money on CSAM.

    Another aspect is the way things which are pretty intense and should only be happening in negotiated, BDSM contexts are presented as normal parts of sex. Choking is extremely fucking dangerous and really shouldn’t be done by anyone who doesn’t explicitly know what they are doing, but it’s treated as almost part of vanilla sex. Painful anal sex is treated as desirable.

    I’ve had a lot of casual sex with men, and many many times these men have done things like spanked or choked me without consent, and I feel like in part that happens because it’s part of the sex script they learned from watching porn.

    Also, so much of it seems to be from Eastern European countries where the women might be getting trafficked. You might recall that Andrew Tate’s grift, which he has passed on to others, was essentially forcing women to cam for him while he kept the money.

    Like, I think porn can be done ethically. Conceivably, we could have a world where exhibitionists who are having fun are the only ones making porn - maybe if we had UBI and no one had to do it to survive. But that’s not the world we live in.

  • It’s not really that far removed from flashing someone if it’s unsolicited. And - even as a guy who loves dick pics - no one is going to be enticed by a poorly lit picture of your dick held up next to a monster can in your bathroom. (What the hell is with the “over the toilet shot”? So gross.)

  • NSFW

    TPE and safety

    Jump
  • It’s hard because I still miss him and love him. It sometimes feels like it would have been easier if he had killed me, if I had died still believing that he loved me.

    I went through therapy for a while, but it didn’t really help. I just really need something to replace the relationship - to feel loved and owned again. But finding a good lifestyle dom is really hard. I have a few guys I play with that will pat me on the head, tell me I’m doing a good job - I just need to extend that to other things. It’s so easy to find sex, but that comfort is more fleeting.

  • My ELO is 6969

  • My fucking machine is way better but also so goddamned LOUD. My neighbors probably do hear more than they want to as it is but that thing is ridiculous.

  • As a trans guy, it also sucks. I put in every single posting “yo I am a dude, I am a hairy man with a beard” but still I get low effort messages from straight guys.

    I think Fet depends on area, and how toxic your local dungeon scene is….

  • Gonna be real with you chief -

    Somebody should have probably stopped me from going to LoversLab as a teenager and seeing beastiality and necrophilia.

    There’s a middle ground. While the government probably isn’t in the position to figure it out, the abundance of extreme porn that is completely accessible to kids is not good either.

  • This is why I like trains. If I time it right it just keeps going and going and going… one FWB ain’t enough

  • Hands around my throat. Especially if I’m being fucked by someone who doesn’t care there’s a beard there. But nothing is better than having hands around my throat in a context where I feel entirely safe.

  • I’ve had an 11” before - like baby arm girth too. It’s absolutely physically taxing. Not just the “ouch” from cervix bumping but also there’s just something about big penises that make it feel like exercise. 9” is fun but it’s like I ran a marathon.

  • It would be difficult to show off his boomstick that way though.

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world

    How much of a deal breaker would be a high body count for you?

  • There’s a lot of reasons why someone might ask you to stop, and the critical thing is that you do so immediately and check in.

    It can start hurting - maybe you hit a wrong angle, maybe there isn’t enough lube. There can also be triggers associated with sex, psychological aspects where a stray thought, a brief smell or feeling, can make things not fun in the moment. Maybe you are pressing on your partner in a way that starts to feel uncomfortable or cramp. Being penetrated can feel intense and overwhelming, and sometimes it’s possible to slip from fun to not fun out of nowhere.

    Making sure that your partner knows that you will stop if asked is critical to helping them feel safe.

  • Had a doc diagnose me when I was a teenager, but had my medical care taken away as punishment. Was supposed to have some form of surgery, but idk if I’ll ever afford it. Mostly Looking for coping mechanisms

  • I like it quite a bit. I have a lot of anonymous/casual encounters, so I don’t get to enjoy a guy finishing in me very often, but sometimes I enjoy having a guy finishing on my ass (rarely face, I’m usually masked.)

    The appeal is degradation. I’d love to set up a bukkake someday. It’s a mark of some sort of “ownership” which goes with my kink of belonging to all men. Cum inside also physically feels great, having a guy pull out and feel it leaking is very fun.

    I don’t think my sex life is very comparable to an “average person” though.

  • I can’t imagine many would care.

    I like balls, but the physical impact they provide is that lovely feeling of having the scrotum slap into me. I guess two could provide a heavier impact, but kinetic energy is the square of velocity, not mass.

  • Took three guys today. All serviced face down ass up. No idea who they are lol.

  • I have a little bit of a “cis male supremacy” kink, which would be problematic if I took it “seriously.” Kinks are all about working with problematic ideas and trying to reclaim them for fun. I think adding in the “consent” aspect covers your bases.

    Kinda like when I’m servicing cis men - if they start with the idea that I’m inferior without checking that it’s okay, that’s a no go. After we talk about it - hell yes call me a pathetic little fake boy. I’m confident as a man, but submitting to “real” men with their superior cocks is great. It’s fun to imagine that I am biologically ordained to be a three holed slut, a natural bottom due to my anatomy. It’s not inherently “true” but it gets my dicklet standing at attention.

  • I am pretty sure they can choose size when they have their bottom surgery.

    Within a range with phallo, depends on what they use for the skin graft, blood flow and other things.

    I would probably get a meta and try to keep my cunt. What I have from T looks pretty close to a vestige already, a meta wouldn’t add too much length. My cunt figures pretty heavily in my kink for submitting to other men - I’m set up to service a cock at any time, compared to other IM’s, who usually have to prep to be penetrated.