8ch×n is worse.

Thank you for validating what I've been screaming into the void for the last few years.

I'm an extremely optimistic person, but, no Carla, I'm not "so beautiful that [I] could be a model". I'm aware of my limitations of that area, and telling me that is real nice and polite on your end, but let's be realistic here. Lol

Now apply that to my other traits. I'm not being "mean to myself" by addressing my shortcomings and flaws. I'm aware that I have many talents and other things I'm proud of, so don't fucking lie to my face.

No lady in her right mind puts underwear in the dryer.

I remember a huge thing was "I look like a supermodel 2 months after giving birth. Women who don't have no excuse."

You know.... people who have access to high-quality healthcare, good nutrition, personal trainers, nannies, etc. etc.

I get what you're saying. However, my meaning is more "this can lead you into worse problems" = unhealthy coping. Alcohol worked fantastic for me to cope! But holy shit that has often led to worse situations and terrible health consequences.

People use painting to cope. Writing. Music Ways to express yourself and explore how you feel without self-destruction. Ways to explore things that suck without potentially harming in worse ways.

Saying "this is how I cope!" while doing self-harm is unhealthy. It's a wobbly-ass crutch that is also full of glass that will hurt you if you once you lean on it too hard.

Do I blame folks for unhealthy coping? No. Not at all. I get it 100%. But a lot of it is used to numb the pain and ignore things instead of addressing it, and can turn into habit that will make your life so much worse, on top on your initial problems.

There are two kinds of copes: healthy & unhealthy. What is your goal? If it's to actually heal, you need to take steps towards healthy coping.

I'm working through my unhealthy copes. Things like targeted bitterness, willfully ignoring the issues, depersonalization, detached relationships, etc.

Long-term, I ain't doin' so great. But I'm trying to be in a healthier mindset in order to get better.

Baby steps.

And in case anyone needs a reminder: forgiveness does not mean "letting it ride"— sometimes it means letting it go of the hurt that's clung onto you so that you can move forward, regardless of the other party. It's a journey.... it.. certainly is a journey.. and it will absolutely take time. And it doesn't always involve closure. That's where I personally am right now.

Anyhow. Yeah.

I don't enjoy healthy coping. It hurts a lot. But I know it's what I need to do in order not to destroy both myself & the others around me who may genuinely care.

Idk. Shit's hard, yo.

EDIT: yeeeah, one time I did nothing else except immerse myself in a video game for like 3 months straight. No joke. Addiction has a lot of forms, but they'll all fuck you up.

I'm always curious about media entertainment.

Are there any interesting movies or video games exclusive to North Korea that you enjoy? Do you have any favorites? What are they all about?

Thank you!

I love OneShortEye!! Wonderful video! So much fun!

It's barbaric. They assume that if you're girl/woman, most problems are basically "female hysteria"!

Not even "it could be [blank], you might want to keep an eye on that and report back if it doesn't go away." Nope! Diagnosis: dramatic.

And women die from this shit. Or become disabled / handicapped. Or it affects their long-term future if they want children. It's awful.

I'm so sorry. I hope that the two of you are doing well.

It's an actual tragedy how women's health is dealt with. They get brushed off because "women have been giving birth for hundreds of thousands of years!", ignoring that it's the number one thing that kills women!! So our reproductive health and concerns are ignored while the ability to reproduce is put onto a pedestal.

I fucking hate it.

Pain was deep, ye. Can't answer the question about physical activity because it rendered me unable to do any! But, yes, exerting any kind of physical effort seemed to make it worse.

I would lie on the cold bathroom floor every month with a heating pad / hot water bottle on my stomach, but it gave little relief through the simultaneous hot flashes and cold sweats.

Two things that actually helped somewhat if I could catch it hours before it started were: eating bananas (I suspect potassium helped with cramping), and, weirdly.. drinking pickle juice. Idk what that was about, but it worked.

But have "your friend" get checked for endometriosis and PCOS!!! That shit can actually escape your uterus and scar up / destroy your other organs!!! No joke!!!!

Thank you.

Birth control was my savior and actively allowed me enjoy life again. 💕

Excruciating period pain that would leave me fainting and vomiting every. Single. Time.

"Every girl goes through this" said the doctor, convincing my parents that I was just "dramatic".

Turns out I had huge polyps growing out of control! Left scarring in my uterus and high-risk when pregnant.

Dealt with that hell every fucking month since I was 11 until I got onto birth control in my 20s.

Ours is Mondays!

"DO NOT RETALIATE because we are vewy scawed pls don't huwt us oh no why are you being so vewy mean to us for no weason? 🥺"

Nintendo's soul died with Iwata.

Blessings to you. 🙏

I thought the "J" stood for "Jabroni"? 🤔

Neat! Shuttle service! Zaph, get in!! We're going get overpriced drinks at a loud, overstimulating place and complain about it the entire time!!

I remember politely telling the guy at my local Family Video that "Watership Down" should probably be removed from the kid's section. He scoffed at me and just gave me a "yeah.. mkay."

A few weeks later, I noticed it was gone. I commented on it to a different guy this time and he said "yeeeeah, the boss' sister brought it home for her kids. It's gone now. Like... actually gone."

Childhood trauma could have been avoided with that one. Lol