"you get out of it what you put into it,"
this can just be a text message or something. It does sound like youre going through a lot, does your former friend know about this? If it's been 17 years since you saw him im guessing he doesn't. The onus isn't on you or him, it's not an obligation or responsibility on either persons part, but when two people stop talking and you aren't sure why then it was a mutual decision(conscious or subconscious) made by both of you. There's many people I saw often for a while and I don't talk to or see anymore, and it wasn't the result of a fight or some other big moment, it just sorta happened. You are right that if people disappear because youre a burden then they are shitty, but you can't just assume that was the reason either.


plane disappears. Trump: "oh dear i guess ill have to right a new bill of rights"