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Some do. Sexuality isn't a choice. Nobody requires sex itself, though.
Not to be a spoil sport but rating how good it bad ANY genetic material is always feels icky to me. If we want to fully move away from eugenics, we need to stop its narrative even in case of garbage humans like musk, too.
I've had such a different experience than what the article describes! Long nails were usually shamed, you were high maintenance, extra, too girly. Girls with long nails would constantly get reminded that men don't find them attractive, as if that was relevant (I think I've even seen that in this thread).
I guess we have a tendency to do the opposite of what we're told to do growing up. I love growing out my nails now. Sometimes I feel like keeping them short, too.
I've also been a nail biter for over 20 years and short nails are much harder to not bite for me, so keeping them short is an added mental hassle. Still, worth it sometimes.
Correct me if I'm mistaken, but iirc it is the smell of the chlorine reacting with any pollutant, not just pee. Skin cells and skin oils will make it smell like that, too.
Ive made nooch, Sriracha and tofu with toast and with rice, I'll try it with noodles next, thanks for the idea!
Are you being paid by e.coli?
In my country they tow tram track blockers immediately. I think it's some sort of 'emergency' towing too (arrives faster and is more expensive). If it takes too long, they temporarily replace the tram line with a bus. I imagine it's the same in many places.
That person is dressed like a teenager in sims 2
And anyway, my comment was mostly about not potentially inflicting causes of your trauma on others. Because that is what usually happen when people fear not being in control... they try to control others once they have the means to do so.
You don't see how that's not a very nice thing to say to someone that just said they have complex trauma?
Where is the assumption? I was almost literally quoting you.
Look, I'm not going to convince you in a Lemmy comment chain. I just hope you can show a bit more empathy for different lived experiences in real life.
Please reread my comment: I said IF that's what you mean! I'm asking because youre explaining to other commentators how they should overcome their need for their own spaces. Also, that the need to control yourself usually leads to wanting to control others is false and a pretty mean thing to say to someone who said they feel the need to have control over themselves. Trauma does NOT make me a bad person, thank you very much. We're people too, you know. We're capable of empathy and of working on ourselves.
The explanation? I am an incredibly powerful trickster goddess. Same with my impostor syndrome.
Working on it, but I'll still be autistic and introverted. Are you assuming anyone can and should overcome the need to be alone? That would be quite ableist.
Ok but then why does my neighbour joke about the fun party night when I'm coming home from a night shift. And why does a random friend of my mums that I only know by sight tell my mum when I am and I am not home.
I'm like the person you're replying to, and for me it's very much just introversion and autism, plus a lot of complex trauma about my body and life being controlled by others.
Oxford Professor: Cycling is 10 times more important than electric cars for reaching net-zero cities
I'm autistic and always grateful for comments like this, thanks! Sometimes I genuinely don't get it.
Oxford Professor: Cycling is 10 times more important than electric cars for reaching net-zero cities
Sure, but I was replying to a comment thread about replacing roads and highways with cycling infrastructure.
Oxford Professor: Cycling is 10 times more important than electric cars for reaching net-zero cities
Plus, roads are important for the people who can't walk or cycle as well as for emergency services. Goods can't all be transported by bike, either. Of course, that doesn't require multiple lanes. Part should be kept, part turned into small green spaces to compensate for the environmental effect of the road, and part should be used for separate cycling and walking spaces. It becomes a bit more complex with streets that aren't big enough for all that, of course.
Adderal is an amphetamine, which is different from methamphetamine. Not nearly as potent and addictive.
Converting moped to electric?
Hi there! I've tried researching this myself, but found myself overwhelmed because I'm simply not knowledgable enough.
I've got a 20 year old 50cc vespa. I got this idea in my head that I should convert it to electric, since getting a new vehicle has such a huge environmental impact. The battery is on its last legs, and I'm not so sure about the engine either, and I was thinking I'd convert instead of replacing the existing parts. I'd like to keep it at a similar power bc that way, people who don't have a motorcycle license could legally drive it, too. (If they have a car license.)
Has anyone done anything like this or has some other pointers?
TIA!
Someone once genuinely said my eyes were a beautiful interplay of melanin, lipochrome, and Rayleigh scattering (or something to that effect). Aka my eyes are green. Physicists man.
Not to mention the stigma, especially from unrelated doctors who see the med in your file.
A red button. Image says: 'Would you press the button?' [results of pressing the button:] there exists a pill that makes your disability a LOT less debilitating BUT it's near-impossible to get because the non-disabled enjoy taking the pill for fun and the government doesn't want them to.
Many discussions people have started with me have come down to this
I know, not all omnis. But this is based on personal experience.
Is there any way to get ableists to just google 'hypotension'?
Two part meme. Part one is a crying young person who looks like they're desperate to get someone to understand something. Caption: 'Me explaining why I can walk fast and run but can't stand or walk slowly well'. Part two is a super annoyed looking, slightly older person. Caption: 'people still assuming I'm lying out of laziness'.
Recycling question!
I'm aware that I, the consumer, won't change the world and that we need structural change.
Still, I've been wondering. I've come to learn that plastic recycling is largely a myth/scam, but what about glass and metal recycling? Also, what happens to the plastic coating on metal during recycling?
TIA
How people react when they see me work.
I regret nothing. Say what you want.
Edit: I just saw the two typos. If you find them, you're welcome to keep them.
When it rains
Edit: I love this community so much, thank you all for trying to help!
Secret to looking young? Acne 💅
For real. When I can get my skin to clear up, people guess my age accurately. When I have a breakout, I get carded for beer, which is 16+. I'm 27.
Looking young isn't the be all, end all imo. I prefer to look my age. As I get wiser and more experienced and know myself better, I develop white hairs and fine lines and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Can anyone recommend Google Scholar alternatives?
I'm using DDG or searx for all my casual searching, but haven't been able to find a good search engine for scholarly articles specifically. Scrolling through pages upon pages of forum posts and educational stuff for teens/kids is unfortunately too time consuming when I'm specifically looking for research papers. I'd also need to be filtering by year of publication since I need to know what's currently going on in my field, not what was going on 30 years ago.
TIA!
Does anyone else have this weird quirk where you prefer phonecalls over emails?
Something about there being a record of what I said that can be checked and rechecked as many times as wanted gives me mad anxiety. Like they can analyse just how weird I talk. With a phonecall, all that remains is memory, and that makes people way more inclined to give me the benefit of the doubt.
Sometimes I take half a day considering just how to address and sign an email. There's such intricate expectations there and no cues from them that would allow me to adjust as needed. It's just guessing with zero clues. At least when I get an immediate response to anything I say I can adjust as I go and kind of match their tone.
Don't get me wrong, I find calls stressful too, but at least the stressing is over when it's done. It's more of a ripping the band-aid off kind of stress. The barrier of actually doing it is higher, but at least i can't really spend all day putting my energy into it as I do with an email.
Chlorine water and skimcare
Hello skincare friends! Do any of you swim regularly?
I'm wondering how to synchronize my twice-weekly swimming sessions with my skincare routine. Chlorine is quite drying and can cause breakouts.
I usually do: am: Wash with water-sunscreen pm: wash with cleanser, retinol, moisturise (5 times a week) wash with cleanser, bha, rinse, moisturise (other 2 days)
How would you coordinate this with swimming? No bha on the swim days to avoid drying out too much? No retinol either to avoid breakouts?
I have noticed that my skin has been feeling more tight pretty much every day since I've started swimming.
If anyone has additional advice on preventing ear infections in eczema filled ears (ie the skin in the outer ear canal has eczema) when swimming, let me know!
TIA!
A specialist I regularly see says the symptoms I'm describing are worse than my blood work would suggest, so she recommends I see an internist to figure out what else is wrong!
I see her every 2-3 weeks at the moment. I only mentioned the symptoms* that I know can be related to the disease I'm seeing her for. They apparently shouldn't be near as bad, according to the results of my blood test (she usually calls me a few hours to a day after the appointment to tell me the results). So now I have yet another health issue to figure out, yay!
Anyone willing to bet whether I'll be diagnosed as 'stressed' or 'skinny young woman' this time? Those were my diagnoses plenty of times when I described those symptoms. I'm not even a woman, so it comes with a little side dish of dysphoria.
*Light headedness and fainting to the point I don't feel safe standing too long (though walking is fine), extreme night sweats, very high heart rate and very low blood pressure
Knee pain. How long should I take it easy or take a break?
Training routine: 8k/50min once a week, 1-2 (usually 1) slower runs of 3k-ish.
Always at least 1 day rest, where I sometimes do light upper body workouts, sometimes nothing.
Longer run sometimes replaced by an alpine hike of a few hours. Walking of at least 3k, often more, almost daily. I've been doing the latter for years, been running somewhat consistently for ~8months.
Participating in a 10k in May.
I'm noticing some pain behind the upper edge of my patellae that tends to start around the middle or end of my longer runs and after a little while of hiking uphill. Since I'm pretty sure it's not muscle pain, I don't want to just push through it. Do I need to take a complete break from running? Do I even need to take a break from walking? If so, for how long? Or is it going to be enough to reduce mileage a bit? Do I need to start cross training more at this level already?
Thank you in advance!
Edit: just remembered, first time I felt it was during a 30k flat hike a few weeks
Beginner(ish) question!
Please remove or tell me to delete if this isn't allowed!
I've been dual booting Ubuntu and Windows for a good few years now. I keep the windows around for gaming, because, ahem, I don't like giving EA, among others, money. I know it's not a problem to play most of the games I've paid for on Linux, but does anyone have experience with playing games on Linux that you've, somehow, obtained for free? And keeping them updated, too?
I'm still going to dual boot because keeping my games separate from my work is a decent adhd strategy for me, so I'm open to gaming friendly OS suggestions as well!
Im on meds!
It's been pretty much exactly 20 years since a psychologist first suspected I have adhd. I finally got a Ritalin. The mixture of grief and elation I'm feeling is indescribable. I was robbed of so, so much in my teens and early-mid twenties, but I can finally begin to live my life.
Story if you want it: my mum took me to a child psychologist when I was 7 to get an opinion of whether it'd be a good idea that a skip a grade. I only know this because I overheard her telling it to friends as a funny story, and going like hahaha as if MY child is disabled/r-slur (where I live, people use disabled as a derogative, both for the disabled and as a generic one. Similar to how some people say gay as an insult. So, idk an accurate translation, it's inbetween). This was when I was maybe 12? I googled (at school, didn't have my own PC) and more or less concluded I have adhd, and that it wouldn't be safe or worthwhile to bring it up with mum.
As soon as I moved out (at about 19), I went to my GP a
Attempted a space design
What do you think? Ccw
How long until running stops sucking?
I apologize for how negative that sounds! It's been 3 months. I unfortunately can't be as consistent as I'd like because of chronic utis. I currently go about 8-10 km/h for 20 mins at a time, 2-3 times a week when I'm healthy. I keep at it because I've noticed a boost in my general energy and mood, but I hate pretty much every second of actually running. I read that that's normal as you start out, especially if you start from zero like I did. But I've also read you eventually start to tolerate and then later enjoy it. How long did it take for you to get to that point?
Edit: 5 month update on case someone stumbles across this. My progress is slow, due to frequent breaks due to my frequent colds and UTIs. I'm at 30min 5k. Running still sucks, in part, but it also feels...powerful? I've learned to pace myself and run slower, so I'm not all spent after 10 mins. It's difficult, but I think running too fast really was the biggest problem. Now what I feel during a run is a mix of 'ughgh I
It ain't perfect but I'm happy with my first try (at least in a decade) at anything other than one colour per nail
This would've been much easier with tape but I didn't have any lol
Stopped biting my nails with the help of nail polish
A polished nail feels differently in my mouth, which is enough to make me realize I'm doing it and then to stop myself. Here's my current mani vs one of my first