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  • As a teenager I didn't conform to her will without question, I asked questions and pushed back on decisions if it didn't make sense to me. I'm positive I was rude very often, but the only physical interaction was her hitting me - I didn't do more than be a smart ass trying to understand things. Which honestly was a pain for her to deal with, I wish I hadn't been so difficult for her.

    Ultimately I think I was hard to parent because of my ADHD which want diagnosed till later. Having a kid of my own with ADHD I see how hard it is to parent a neurodivergent child if you're unaware of their needs in that regard.

    So as far as her fear, I dunno what she fears of me or if she does fear me. It could just be a knee jerk reaction of hers to limit interaction with me. Maybe she's afraid of acknowledging our bad relationship or things she's done?

  • Mental Health @lemmy.world
    DrVader @lemmy.world

    Tried reaching out to my mom to see if we can try and mend our relationship. Didn't feel great, I want to try again though

    we've been no contact with my family on and off for a while - we were able to use covid and my daughter's premature birth as a scapegoat (which honestly was a worry anyways), but we've been starting to try and attend family events more now that my parents have grandkids other than my own kids. Having more in-laws and grand kids has seemed to help them mellow out a bit.

    To over simplify, my mom and I've never gotten along. I know I have a lot of blame for that from when I was a kid / teenager, and I think my mom has some unresolved challenges of her own from her dad abusing her as a kid. That being said, as a Father of a few kids myself, the idea of my kids eliminating their relationship with me kills me inside, and I gotta think my mom feels similarly - I hope so at least. I've tried reaching out a few times a few different ways, trying to talk about things I know she loves - old Abbott and Costello movies, good food, baseball, etc. I feel like I'm talking to a wall - and at family

  • Ya, I'm less about screwing spez and more about enjoying my niche communities. I just couldn't enjoy it on Reddit Mobile - it's painful, the whole ux. Then since Lemmy works great and I still have my niche groups which I enjoy interacting with. Just makes sense. Reddit made a bunch of awful decisions impacting ux and it's unusable in my eyes.

    There is a bit of me that still wants to use my old Joey app still. Hope that dev comes up with something, it was a great tool.