[DO NOT READ IF YOU’RE SENSITIVE TO DISCRIMINATION, EMOTIONAL ABUSE/BULLYING, OR TO START AN ARGUMENT. I JUST NEEDED TO RANT.]
my friend for 4 years is someone who i had to cut contact with. they’ve completely discarded me, perhaps before i cut contact altogether and won’t even look nor talk to me.
they are definitely something else, and i should probably feel good about that but it kind of hurts. part of the reason why seems to be because i’m an autistic woman, as she makes fun of autistic people and views them as lesser despite using autism as an excuse to be “stimmy”.
she also used to do the “don’t leave me for these other people! they don’t understand you like i do” thing. for years she convinced me that most everyone is ableist and evil and that i would never be good enough.
she convinced me it’s normal to treat people badly when you wanted to “mold” them into the person you wanted them to be, and it wasn’t until sometime last year that i realized this behavior was harmful.
[3 different thumbnails given to you randomly. All have words in yellow text. One says “explaining ableist language” another has “intro to ableist language” and one says “what is ableist language?”. They are all next to the disabled pride flag and on a digital art wooden background with a grey table in the bottom left corner]
these people i know complain that they barely have any friends and that they’re considered “the weird kids” yet bully other neurodivergent people for that reason.
as someone with autism + adhd, this just makes me so sad.
I have tried a couple of different "daily planner" type strategies (Bullet Journal, etc...), but none of them seem to stick. I'm looking for ideas on how others are able to organize their daily/weekly/whatever to see if any of them would make sense for me (or maybe even trigger inspiration to take parts from ideas and make my own). I'm pretty sure whatever I go with would have to be digital (carrying a physical notebook with me was part of the reason Bullet Journal didn't work), but I'm not opposed to trying an analog technic again. Also, depending on the strategy I could probably "convert" it to digital and use Obsidian or another tool (I'm an iOS user).
I ended up opening up to ten books and reading them for a few days (going one by one by one and then back again, trying to repeat the process).
Then asked myself "What am I doing?"
I was trying to be productive now that I don't have a job, but I realized that I'm almost done with university and have an internship now; I'm already focused on those two things and was just trying to make up for "free time." I mean, what the hell... I didn't have to make myself "more productive" but here I am.
I also decided to stop another activity of mine that I was practicing 'cause, again, I felt I needed to do it rather than wanting to do it.
A YouTube video that inspired me was here, btw. But it wasn't the only inspiration. Just a creeping realization among other things.
In the end, I got overwhelmed and realized I didn't want to do... any of these things. There were o
I'm reading a lot of conflicting information about ADHD so I'm not really sure how to describe it. But I saw a statement that resonated with me. It lines up with a lot of the difficulties and frustrations in my life. I'm curious to see what others think about it.:
ADHD is not being able to start, and not being able to stop.
And I've lately developed a penchant for clicking on the blue dotted YouTube channels on my subscription list to the left-hand side of the page.
I would rather that I didn't have to see that or deal with that so I can try to "willpower" my way through not clicking them or clicking all of them or as many as I can before getting tired.
But ultimately, it would be easier if there was a way to get rid of the blue dots entirely.
Is there an extension for Mozilla Firefox to adjust the UI so I can get rid of the blue dots?
Or maybe there's a trick to change the formatting on YouTube as is?
How does everyone feel about it? Should I keep it? Turn it off? Change it's frequency? (If so, to what?). It feels like it's the biggest poster here and I don't know if that is a good thing or not? I see some responses to it (which is good), but I also see a few that don't get responses. If it's just about the prompts it is giving I could try tuning that as well. Please let me know what you all think.