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  • Just had a slap in the face about how badly my life has turned out.

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  • A start of a good relationship begins with being okay for them to end. Doesn't mean it won't b painful and it's idealistic to aim for a perfect one, but nobody has to actually achieve one.

    It's good to reach out to your friends, but if they don't reach out to you, then it's fine to also let go. Just like how it's okay for you to leave your best friend, no matter how much they've reached out to you and you can do that at any moment, if they have a problem with that then they probably aren't worth it. Nobody in this world is that special and that's fine. Just people is enough, they don't need to be special.

    To most people in the world you are as important to them as I am important to you. It doesn't matter how much wealth, beauty or commodities either of us have, truthfully neither of us will ever develop a meaningful relationship between one another. We just come here probably because our lives are kind of boring and we need a stimulus or we're trying to influence others to do better, something along those lines. But I definitely wouldn't take friendship advice from here or anywhere really, it's best to let go of your expectations, focus on yourself and if you want to you can find people to tag along, it will get more difficult as we age, its' more difficult the more out of "norms" you are too, sadly, it actually used to be easier for disabled people to live our lives, unless they needed medical advancement to survive (which most of us can't afford to get anyways), but back in the day we could do something as simple as picking berries or cleaning the house and we'd be seen as worthy members of society. There's valuable lessons in history, not to romanticize it, because advancement can bring great joy to many more people's lives, it's about who reaps the benefits of such advances.

    Look at how poor, disorganized and desperate we are. Despite all that we still seem to be capable of figuring out a great deal of stuff and yet the richest of humanity seem entirely and completely incapable of running it smoothly. So much access to anything their minds desire and so little achievements. This is the end result of culture built on comparison, envy, demands. Don't be like them.

  • China Condemns ‘Unacceptable’ US, Israeli Strikes on Iran

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  • Please actually go and support the closest socialist project near you, immediately. Put at least 10% of your effort into it daily that's conservatively around 2 and a half hours. Do it for at least 3 days every week. Do that every week, no skips. Manage to do this for 3 months.

    Always show up on time, do your task, no excuses.

    If you're already doing this good. If you're not, then what are you even here for?

  • How would you redesign dating apps?

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  • You'd probably need a matchmaker that helps you find a date, for long term relationships. Such a design is not profitable, however.

    People are too conditioned to hide their true selves right now, if you don't you're seen as weak, flawed. Such a society is bad at forming relationships at the core. I would try to help them, by teaching healthy habits give out exercises for real self-improvement, develop their interpersonal skills.

    Right now this is how people function:

    • This is what I'm good at, this is what I want to do.
    • This is how much stuff I have.
    • This is how I plan to avoid failure.
    • This is what I want from you.

    How I'd like to see people function:

    • This is what I'm good at, here's the goals I'm heading towards.
    • This is what I've worked towards before.
    • This is where I've failed, what I'm bad at, here's how I plan to address my shortcomings.
    • Here's how we compliment each other.

    Maybe in a few hundred years someone is going to realize this, a world where people are treated more than livestock for breeding. It make me really sad when I see, especially when it's socialist, state officials pass anarchic laws of anti-gay relationships, because oh no my birth rates. oh no my soldiers screwing each other in combat!

    Right now I think just introducing a dialectically trained matchmaker would go a long way and I see it as a feasible first step, in the short term. Also remodeling the algorithm and how people match, but that's a given.

  • Critical support for BE taking on Anarkids?

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  • Everybody wants to be a part of a socialist state, but nobody wants to build a socialist state.

    That's the end of this discussion. Like what else can one say? This has been talked to death for decades at this point, can we stop flinging shit at each other and wasting time doing measuring contests?

    Our brains typically like following patterns, the more you do something the harder it is to stop doing it. It's like the quote attributed to Lenin: "A lie told often enough becomes the truth." You have to keep re-examining your own behaviors constantly or it's so easy to fall into a conditioning chamber, of your own making.

  • The Collective Subconscious of Capitalist Societies.

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  • To put it really bluntly: Western society is founded on Imperialism and mass sacrificial murder killings.

    It's important to examine how this effects their way of life, simply flipping the board and killing all the bad guys is not going to resolve the contradictions, not change the "essence" of their society.

    Real reparations are done by those which accept that they're monsters and teach their children to be better, not those who try to be good at a gunpoint and through use of threats. This doesn't mean you have to turn into a naive-do gooder, but frankly I'm almost out of hope on the re-educational front. Everywhere I go it's the same people with different costumes. There's more to socialism than just switching out out targets of treatment.

    Fortunately I have seen people who try to change it, but it definitely won't happen anytime soon it seems. There's still a very real threat that global fascism will win. This reality is too taxing to face on, real change would require doing a lot of unfun, challenging and painful things. But when people are dying every day and nobody seems to care in addressing these problems, toxic unhealthy behaviors are tolerated everywhere, on every major and most minor offline/online platforms. What choice do I have left besides trying to destroy things like free speech? I once used to envy usa, for how much they are free to talk about, now I see it as an obstacle in and of itself. I honestly can't think of anything worse happening within the next 10 years than a socialist being elected in USA and then they proceed to keep bombing the world and go to war with China, but it could happen.

  • NSFW

    Redditor experiences mental breakdown when confronted in-person with reality that contradicts their anti-China indoctrination

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  • In order for this kind of person to improve they'd have to admit something. All they do is whatever master tells them to. And this really annoys them, they can't do anything about it. If they targeted me directly I would prove them right. That's why they need something like the state to murder me instead. That's why they hate all states.

    Whenever they're confronted with this reality they suffer a wound, in order to escape that they either need the comfort of a fellow cultist, they turn to self-harm, lashing out on others, substance abuse etc. On some occasions some of them manage to escape, but it's highly unlikely when their material reality is built to reinforce their maladaptive behaviors.

    Think of the people you love the most in your life, would you be willing to let go of them? Would you be willing to snitch on your family because they committed fraud? The story of Morozov was demonized relentlessly when I went through school. "Look how evil the commies were, they even taught to report their own family to the cops, for doing crime! Family>Everyone else! >:("

  • Comradeship // Freechat @lemmygrad.ml
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    The Collective Subconscious of Capitalist Societies.

  • Im so fucking sick of my coworkers talking about the students not eating food or how attendance is down when their food fucking sucks

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  • You could make food your style and put it next to theirs when people are eating next time, show them that you can back up your claims. Everyone claims they are the best these days I can't exactly blame them for dismissing empty words.

    Don't treat people like background NPCs, have you ever actually thanked anyone who helped make you this far or do you think you're the MC who is so much better than us? People know if they improve all they'll get in return is more empty words anyways, so they don't give a damn anymore.

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    Liberal Europeans truly are the OG Nazis

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  • Well a lot of them did get recuperated. You have no idea how sick I am hearing about how we were the "good ones" because muh nuremberg trial said so. Weak ass trial didn't go hard enough.

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    Yankee living in Mexico: "Mexico isn't entitled to have their 'sovereignty' respected. I want to see a full scale invasion."

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  • How to bait out a cartel associate:

    Tell them how easy their life has been and how little they've accomplished, wach them start flexing $$$ and how much cars they have and how someone is constantly after them, for some reason.

    These people usually have horrible self-control, they'll self-snitch quite easily.

  • Why can't a socialist party/org use deceptions and dirty tactics to win power?

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  • I was thinking more in terms of newer generations, the raise of anti-imperialist thought (but not necessarily a socialist one), cases like Greta I remember I used to dismiss her years ago, but she's actually done serious praxis despite her past of being pro-capitalism.

    I'm worried the youth, who spend increasing amount of time in online spaces, that many older gens still seem to dismiss, but those spaces are super toxic. And I know from personal experience it's possible to get those people to touch grass, not by yelling at them, but by promoting more healthy behaviors and by bullying out the fascists. I often had to obscure facts when talking to them, couldn't use words like socialism or communism when communicating, but what I did was promote healthy behaviors focused on self-improvement.

    And there are even healthy ways to love a country, if loving it means critique and accountability or healthy ways to practice religion for those who find comfort in that, that's like my big hopium I guess, can we have a scenario where instead of backstab the libs recognize we are the lesser evil and destroy the rightists with us, then we can focus on further radicalization.

    But right now i think the absolute front of the matter is Imperialism, being anti-imperialist above all else, for the moment, being pro-live and let live policies.

    We keep being fed news about the world ending, nothing we can do, it's too late, people are hopeless, but the world hasn't ended. Yeah there are some figures online primarily Hasan who try to convert people, but we need something better than that, a lot of the people I've approached actually don't like to listen to figures like him, they see him as a hypocrite, because of his wealth, but they listen to me except I can only get so many people out there by myself. So I've been trying to find allies, but it's really difficult.

    I'm either too radical or not radical enough, but what I really want to do is pragmatically build material power to help save the world, together. I didn't choose the world I was born in al I can really do is figure out how to mess with it, in hopefully such ways that socialism can be achieved.

  • Lithuania's [1991] False Flag Counter-Revolution

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  • I would like to say more, but there's like weird shit happening, like explosions at eternal flame memorials and part of me is scared the US aligned nationalists might drag everyone into a grave.

  • Lithuania's [1991] False Flag Counter-Revolution

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  • While you're not wrong that there were protests in the city against Russians, telling them fuck off and go home and people were discouraged to speak Russian, refused to do so. There is no such thing as "Baltic people" Some areas are quite phobic, others less so, we still have ones where overwhelming majority speak Russian. And like I have gotten weird looks at school when my babushka once took me to school and everyone started talking about "omg her grandma speaks Russian :O" so I'm not gonna sit here and pretend like it's totally not a thing. ofc it has been even outside of the setup protests.

    But it's quite complicated and in general people are pretty segregated along class and identity lines. But that's like liberalism they love segregating. In general the population has become totally pacified, the only constant thing everyone I've ever run into has in agreement is that Politicians are corrupt cockroaches who can't be trusted and nobody will do anything to stop them.

    Another issue is that a lot of the most pro-soviet places have been obliterated by free market economics and de-industrialization. Pretty much completely erased from history. Like we literally had people burn books to stay warm in their homes after free market came in and sold off parts of the system, that were keeping people's homes heated. And this is like relatively tame all things considered I can't imagine the horror show people in Korea f.ex must have experienced.

  • The GDR, "decadent" youth culture, and why the Komsomol Furry Club needs to exist for the revolution

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  • Me trying to pitch socialism within the furry fandom:

    • Stage 1: I get their attention and they're interested to learn more.
    • Stage 2: They decide to venture into socialist spaces to meet the people, who I've been telling them are standing up to minor rights and real, practical, inclusivity
    • Stage 3: They are met with book worshippers who find them icky and gross.
    • Stage 4: They go back to Anarchism.

    Meanwhile: "Okay people we have no material power, we have no real party, we can't grow our book-clubs, why hasn't China saved us, but Lenin said .., read Mao on combat liberalism and don't actually read it, because he's talking about me and I don't like it, why does nobody like us?"

    Added: But honestly it makes sense, given that the material most Marxists in the west study are from a select library, that more then likely has been deemed safe for Capital, even figures like Engels you don't really hear his name much, you don't hear about women authors much, you don't hear about Gramsci and now to expect people who have been neglecting them completely, to accept that maybe they might have been wrong and that they should study new material, with a new approach, it takes great courage to step down the mountain and start again, especially when you think you are almost there.

    Many people will end up stuck halfway through. The more you learn, the more courage you need to learn something new.

  • Why can't a socialist party/org use deceptions and dirty tactics to win power?

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  • I think you speak a lot of truths in there. If it wasn't for principled socialists, who remained true to the cause, despite the darkest of times, we would not have the likes of Michael Parenti. He has great courage and a very strong will.

    At the same time I don't want to fall into great men theory. I don't really know what I'm supposed to do, to be honest. I don't think I have the smarts to figure it out, but I'm trying to learn. That's why I'm asking the questions, instead of just acting on instinct.

    In the other reply you said:

    Deception is not our chief weapon against the ruling class either. Our weapon is realizing and actualizing that we don’t need to appeal to any power but our own, and with that power we can have our way with the world. I believe this power will not grow by trying to trick liberals into being communists.

    It's precisely because I don't believe I can convert them that I am completely lost in what to do. Being principled has left me powerless, if I wanted better job opportunities I would have to have had to concede and give up on my beliefs, at least temporary. Now I've just become another strain on our already incredibly thinly stretched resources, in a world where every group already has life rafts full, what are they supposed to do, toss our their own to save me? That's asking for the unthinkable.

    I don't think I could have become another Parenti or anything even remotely close to that. I don't know who I'm signaling to help when I go to a protest when I know liberals won't care anyways, if I had become a demon I could have at least used the resources to save people whose lives ended prematurely because we didn't have the money. I keep losing people and there's nothing I can do to save them.

    Could any one of us have truly remained loyal to the cause without even a single person who had to engage in Liberalism for the sake of funding us? Just because we have someone else do it for us doesn't make us any better. And it's not like I blame comrades for giving me hope built on lies, it must be excruciatingly painful to be honest with me so I'm never gonna blame anyone for it, at least try to not to. I can sometimes have emotional outbursts and it's difficult to control sometimes, despite all my efforts I've put towards improving.

    You know the tv show about the autistic doctor? idk if it's good I haven't watched it, no time, but I have seen some responses and regardless of how well it portrays autism the reaction from the audience seems pretty spot on. At first people are accepting, some might even cheer on you, but as time goes on people get fed up, unless you can manage to put on a mask well, it's a common experience for disabled people. One of the first things kids in wheelchairs tend to complain about isn't the inability to walk, it's the fact that nobody wants to be their friends, because they struggle with mobility.

    I can offer people friendship, but I can't do anything to help build something that'd let them walk again. All I can do is lie to them that it's gonna be fine when I know it won't be fine. And the only person I can make act is myself, because if I had enough of a willpower I could have at least sold my body to get money for studying being a scientist and try to build legs for some people, but I'm weak and haven't accomplished anything. I make art that doesn't get any followers and is incapable of inspiring any change. I'm not good at communicating, people often struggle to read my posts there's no way anyone would be able to read my books. And it's not like it's because I gave up. I keep trying and trying every day. I haven't skipped an art lesson in 2 years now. I read at least a few pages every day. I listen to how others talk and try to study them. I've sought help from therapists and other professional guidance, whenever I'm able. And what makes me sad is that I'm surely not alone like this.

    Don't get me wrong it would still be wrong what's happening, even if people weren't running for their lives in hopes of success, but the fact that many people try their absolute darndest and end up failing, forgotten, that's what makes me depressed about Capitalism. It's not that it makes people overwork themselves, yes it does and it's bad, but even when it does so it forces people to run hard like horses for absolutely nothing and only the strongest get to survive. We live in a sick game.

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  • Correct. I just wish they actually implemented it, but they don't do it because it would cost money to buy the necessary equipment, to build factories and they don't see the profit in it.

  • "It's an explanation not an excuse" is a pointless nothingburger of a platitude

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  • The thing with proverbs like that is that they don't stand alone. For every one of them there is an opposite and, at the end of the day, none of us are alone, we're subjects of incredibly complex systems of interactions. Arguably incomprehensible to us.

    Now somehow and I don't exactly know why, but somehow we ended up building a world where Individual > Collective. The consequences of this are arguably apocalyptical. People are systematically forced to compete with others, in order to survive. Those who lack the brutality are eliminated. Those who lack clarity treat symptoms, not the cause. Those who do have clarity and resist are targeted by the system itself.

    Perhaps this is the reason why Hell was conceptualized. When you stand before God you cannot say: "But I was told by others to do thus or that virtue was not convenient at the time. This will not suffice." Sometimes I wish this was true, but as we can see this idea in itself doesn't seem to be capable of creating a better world either. Some say it ended up bringing even more suffering.

    I should add this:

    No matter how bad you think you are, remember there's countless people out there who are just as bad as us or worse, but they're completely okay with it. Us being aware of our own flaws enables growth, if we come together and work hard we will surely crush the self-righteous. Their porcelain hands stand no chance against the mighty hammer.

  • Why can't a socialist party/org use deceptions and dirty tactics to win power?

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  • I think I made the post after prolonged frustration with failures of socialist movements within Europe, more specifically. It's difficult to figure out where to go from here. I'm also neurodivergent and due to things like family history, location, a bunch of other stuff. I'm left with trying to figure out how am I supposed to deal with like 10+ simultaneously happening contradictions, mostly by myself because of how fractured the movements have become if I focus on 1 issue I tend to get ostracized by others and if I focus on all of them, how do I do that without becoming an idealist?

    And even if I end up alone that doesn't seem like a justification to turn my back on people. You don't need to be loved to be capable of being a force for good imo. If I can save the life one one child that's enough, if I can do more then all the better. I don't care if people piss on my grave afterwards. This is not directed at the reader btw I know 99% of people care not at all for me +/-

    just some added context to what I was trying to communicate.

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  • That's okay I appreciate the feedback. It may not seem like much, but I've been repeatedly criticized on my communication skills and clearly I know now I have to go study how to communicate better so I really appreciate taking your time to point that out with everyone else who has.

  • Hasan Piker interviews Cuban journalist

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  • Okay, but what can we actually do to influence him to do better? Otherwise we're just wasting time on screaming into the void.

    If there's a well thought out critique of Hasan to be made, let's at least make video essay or something and get him to watch it.

  • Comradeship // Freechat @lemmygrad.ml
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    Why can't a socialist party/org use deceptions and dirty tactics to win power?

  • The Deprogram @lemmygrad.ml
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    Trotspot Chapter 2

  • Comradeship // Freechat @lemmygrad.ml
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    I don't think it's true that we selectively remember negative experiences better.

  • The Deprogram @lemmygrad.ml
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    Humility is an important skill.

  • Comradeship // Freechat @lemmygrad.ml
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    Do you think anonymous online existence leads to the development of an unhealthy mindset?

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    The Vanguard is in the East, not the West.