southsamurai

@ southsamurai @sh.itjust.works

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2mo ago

If "James Bond" is a codename, would a hypothetical female operative filling the same role receive the same codename?
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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago
Gods, the first time heard Elba get suggested as a possible Bond, I flipped out. Then it eventually reached a point where it was definitely not going to happen, and it made me really not want to see any more Bond movies at all. There's some actors born to play a role, and if they don't, it's kinda horrible. Like, if Pierce Brosnan had never had a chance to be Bond, it would have been a miscarriage of cinematic justice, no matter how the movie actually turned out (I enjoyed his turn personally).
The fact that it's essentially impossible to have Elba do even a single bond film now ruins the franchise for me

2mo ago

2 60-80lb dogs

The problem with resolving the situation comes down to resources. Does your area have an effective and quick animal control department?

If so, this is exactly why such agencies exist.

If not, then you have to decide how many chickens are worth feeding to the dogs.

Sadly, feral dogs, half feral dogs, and pets with zero restraint are a problem that often ends in the death of something. Me? I have a "mine first" rule. As much as I love dogs, anything coming after my chickens is target practice. Might not shoot whatever it is this far into town, but there's other ranged items.

If I had a reasonable belief that the dogs have a human neglecting them enough to get in my yard and fuck with my birds, chances are I'm going to put a foot up their ass as well. This isn't hypothetical, btw, I damn near put my foot up a guy's ass because of his shitty dog responsiblity, and only the fact that our rooster literally broke a spur off in the dog's ass while running it off kept the dog alive.

The ugly truth is that those two dogs, without human intervention, have already killed something. At this point, they will kill something else. The only question is what. Another chicken? Another dog? A cat? A kid? You ran them off and they came back. Those dogs are determined and dangerous.

Doesn't mean they can't be saved, just that it'll take a human intervening and taking charge of them. How much can you put into that?

2mo ago

[Vote] Should we defederate from maga.place?

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

Yes

2mo ago

How long should I microwave a deathcap mushroom for to make it edible?

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

At least one

2mo ago

How do parents of young children basically ELI5 when pets or animals are acting "frisky"?

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

Eh, there's no single magic bullet. You stay honest, but past that, you gotta tailor it to the individual kid. Some of them will want a more "scientific" explanation (as in the big brush strokes of reproduction), some will zone out if you say anything past the "that's what animals do" level of response.

The closest to a general rule you can get is to answer what they actually asked, not what you think they're asking. Kids tend to ask things in a very immediate wat, exactly like your example "mommy, what's that?" So you answer what that is in the simplest terms you can and let follow up questions shape the conversation.

You also tend to want to stick to their vocabulary range, rather than trying to expand it at the same time as answering them. To a five year old, having you try to explain what the word masturbation means would be way, way more problematic than the fact that the animal is masturbating, if you see what I mean. You'd just say that's how the lizard wants to play. They just don't have the vocabulary to understand the full explanation yet. So stay simple. If they're ten, you can expand more because they'll have the language map to understand what you're saying if you say "oh, it's trying to mate with the object"

But, you still have to shape that you the individual. Not every kid handles information the same way. Some kids might grasp the concepts of reproduction really easy, others might not, so you gotta stay flexible.

2mo ago

Inspired by coversation I saw in WoD subreddit

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

Home brew that shit! Fuck balance!

2mo ago

Do you prefer natural immunity over vaccination?

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

I can't wait to develop my natural immunity to polio! Or smallpox!

The flu, why, without the vaccine you can develop a natural immunity every year, twice a year if you really want to!

Legit dude, what the fuck do you think "natural" immunity is? It's catching whatever it is, being sick, and surviving it. You specifically chose colds and the flu as examples, and they're the worst possible examples because they mutate so fast you never actually achieve immunity to anything; the version you have resistance to might come around again, or it might not, but you damn sure will eventually run across a strain that your body isn't equipped for.

Like, I get that vaccines are confusing to someone with little education, but this is the internet age, you can look up the terms you're using and make sure you aren't fucking up your entire point. Like, the time it took you to type the post up, you could have looked up what vaccines actually do, and why they are/were the single greatest achievement of the human species.

You can go and get a shot of something stable enough and never get sick from it, ever in some cases. In others, you might get sick but it'll be a few bad days instead of a week or more of misery (as is sometimes how the flu vaccines end up because of the aforementioned mutations, but other viruses are just a bit harder to stop entirely).

So, nah, fuck your natural "immunity", that's just a recipe for lost health and time better spent on something like reading up on why vaccines are fucking awesome, even in the rare cases of allergies or bad reactions.

2mo ago

I got my first prostate exam in five years. I'm clear!

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

Hell, save a few bucks and check your own!

2mo ago

Which is your favourite?

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

Yeah, I've put off watching the reboot because I want to like it as pure horror, but I really think that without that slight cheese factor that even the first one had, it's going to fall flat for me.

I could be wrong, so I'll eventually watch it though.

2mo ago

Anyone else feel like this sometimes?

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

That's almost my motto.

It's actually "old and beat-up", which is why being tired is my secret.

2mo ago

Which is your favourite?

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

The evil dead "trilogy". The original is more or less a straight horror movie, with the second being a slightly more loose horror with intentional comedy notes. The third is full on batshit crazy Ash, and I love it despite it not being scary in any way.

I'm not knocking the horror classics, but for whatever reason, the first evil dead just works for me in a way that very little else does. A lot of it is the sound, I think. The way it's mixed makes everything surreal, which bypasses my usual film geek filter where I'm enjoying how something was done as much or more than the end result with horror. At least, I think that's what it is. But it's one of the rare horror movies I can watch and get a little creeped out by.

2mo ago

2meirl4irl

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

You gotta dig deep and understand your own mind. It doesn't mean you won't experience the intrusive thoughts, but you'll be better able to kinda surf on them with reduced or eliminated stress from them.

Cognitive behavioral therapy can help faster than any home brew methodology to get for to where you can ride the experience out and not have it mess you up a lot. But meditation, specifically mindfulness meditation (though any type you can do will help), gives you part of those tools with less/no need for guidance from the outside.

Progressive relaxation helps too, where you go through your body clenching then relaxing the muscles of your body from head to toe (or toe to head) so that you're using your mind to control your body. This allows the brain a chance to kinda reset, and it leaves your body in a neutral state conducive to good rest.

What those have in common is breath control. Panic comes from a spiral of both mental and physical sources. Since you can't directly tell your adrenal glands to stop dumping on you, or flip a switch to shift brain waves instantly, you have to engage the part of our system that can be directly controlled.

Luckily, controlling our breathing is a magic key to open up our autonomic systems. It slows heart rate, which in turn slows down the brain (eventually) and ramps down the fight/flight response that makes panic attacks so damn horrible.

And, truth is, even though there's drugs that will stop or slow a panic attack, they tend to take roughly the same amount of time to work as any of the stuff I mentioned, once you practice them a while. So, while the drugs will help short term, you can't always take them, and they don't help fix the underlying issues.

2mo ago

You Wakeup age 16 with all your current memories. What's your plan?

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

Like here and now? I'm going to revel in the joy of my healthy body. Then figure out how the fuck to look like my driver's license picture and keep my head down while doing my best to enjoy life until I'm old enough looking to do something more significant.

Going back in time?

That's a nightmare. At least at 16, I would stand a chance of shifting my choices just enough to end up in roughly the same current life, but with better options. But the chance of that is low as hell for anyone. Like, for all the bad shit I've dealt with, without it I would have never met my wife, or met some of the animal companions I've had the great luck to share my life with when I encountered them as strays.

The only thing I'd be willing to sacrifice all that for is trying to prevent one of my best friends from killing himself about three years later.

And that would be worth it, but I'd be losing a lot in the process. Life isn't magic, where a do-over automatically means things are better. It's just different. Like, the fantasy is that you'll use your future knowledge to get rich and avoid all the bad things.

But the more you change your past, the more of the good you prevent along with the bad. And the ugly truth is that you still remember every fucking second of the bad. You don't leave it behind, you're still the same set of memories. Yeah, you'll be building new ones, but there's always going to be ghosts of your past casting shadows over your new present. And those new ones aren't going to be like they would have if you'd taken that path when you were actually that old.

It's still old you inside, so all the freshness of youth is missing.

Do-overs are terrifying, and the younger you'd be when you went back, the more horrific they get.

2mo ago

Anyone else get this?

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

What's great is when it isn't even anything you said or did, you just thought it.

2mo ago

Anyone else get this?

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

Can I have that with a side of irrelevant, minor mistakes that nobody but me cared about. Ideally, they would be from decades ago, but not every place carries vintages like that

2mo ago

Can confirm I do

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

All I can say is that if you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends

2mo ago

Is there an anti- sleep-paralysis device?

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southsamurai @sh.itjust.works 2mo ago

You can try looking into a sleep position trainer. It isn't what you're asking about, but it has had good results in reducing or eliminating the paralysis episodes, so it's a similar outcome.

The problem with what you're specifically asking about is that nobody has gone into production afaik. There's patents for things like they, but they're either junk (and obviously so), or would be way too complicated to set up and use reliably. Sleep paralysis isn't usually responsive to just shaking by itself.

But you could try something similar to the alarms made for deaf people, if you have a consistent timing with your episodes. Or do something like strap a massager to your hand where you can cut it on and hope that the vibration breaks through. People have made that work, though it isn't consistent afaik.