I'm curious what the female / non-binary version of this is, because being distracted by someone's attractiveness in an inappropriate context and trying to navigate the situation and/or think about something more appropriate is relatable to me.

One thing that has helped me is, "the thoughts that enter your mind come from all over: society, media, your experiences, etc. You have to process a lot, and not all of it is nice. So don't judge yourself based on the content of your thoughts, but on how you choose to act."

This is the difference between responsible societies and victim-blaming ones. 

Talking about this is almost impossible in person though. How do you tell somebody that you have thoughts that make you feel uncomfortable with yourself, and would like to have them less? Therapy is only 1 hour a week...