There's two variants. One is extremely harmless and is generally oral. This is the one that nearly everyone has and no one really notices. The other variant is generally genital (though either one can be in either place) and is more severe and less common. The first outbreak can be really bad, subsequent ones less so. An estimated 1 in 10 adults in the US have it, though I'd imagine it skews a lot more towards highly sexually active communities. It can be transmitted even if you don't actively have sores, though that's much rather. Condoms also don't prevent transmission, though again they make it much more unlikely. While getting it certainly doesn't have to be the end of the world it is worse than they generally say.
Telling people it's no big deal is doing them a direct misservice. By all means it should be destimized but you should also be honest about the risks and realities of what it can mean. What happened to me might be a worse case scenario but the average first breakout is still way worse than you would have people believe, and people should know what can actually happen. I'm so sick of people being dismissive of it.
Half the time when I'm confiding in a friend about how my life has and is still going downhill and I tell them about the herpes the first words out of their mouth is "it's no big deal, everyone has it" and it makes me feel so alone. It can be a big deal and it's not as common as people make out.
Hey, it's 1 in 10 for the genital version in the U.S. Not common. When someone dismissively says "oh it's not that bad, it's not the end of the world", they're not the ones who had to deal with pain of taking shits with sores in their ass. To deal with having a hard time being able to tell the difference between gas, liquid, and solids knocking at the door while on stool softeners to help make shits less painful. They're not the ones who have to have the downright humiliating "oh by the way I have herpes, are you ok with that" talk. (They never are).The fact is, it's debilitated me mentally and physically. The scarring from it has taken all the pleasure away from anal for me, and it still hurts to shit half the time. Don't treat it so fucking lightly.
What a sweetie!
I think memes are like the one place ai works for. I don't care much either way, just please lean on the side of allowance when it's hard to tell.
Just want to let you know, you typed a lot of text thinking you were being helpful but you're really, really not. The condescension and belittling really just ends up with you being a dick to someone while feeling good for "helping".
Ayo, guess what, too fundamentally broken as a human being for real relationships so a fake relationship with someone who can't hurt me and who I can't hurt is looking pretty damn nice
People might shit on him but he's happier than I am
Believe me, I'm incredibly anxiously aware I'm starting twink death
When I was working at Oracle I was close friends with some coworkers and we ended up talking about salaries and I really do think they pay women less, at least in our subdivision of it. Hard to say if it's better or worse than 10 years ago cause I had just graduated highschool then, but there's still a long ways to go.
My parents neighbor's cat Leo likes to come visit them whenever he escapes. First he'll come to the back door, then the front windows, yelling and pawing at them if he sees anyone around inside. After we let him in, he runs over to the designated petting chair and waits for someone to follow and sit down so he can jump in their laps and receive pets! But, he knows if it's been raining that my parents towel him off first, and so he runs over to the towel first on those days. He's a beautiful floofy orange cat with thumbs and really smart but really goofy
"I don't like you, it's just coincidence I'm in the same room as you 98% of the time!"
It's him saying thank you =D
Erotador, totallynotjessica, kewwwi, and squirrel are by far the people who post most there and they're all women.
My yin, I'm the one with the blahaj zone account here
Yeah, teachingy therapist about trans people as I was figuring myself out was not fun
Are you talking about browsers/commentors? Cause almost all the prolific posters are women, unless you're being transphobic
Loosely typed with semantic whitespace definitely falls under evil in my book
Hard for me to categorize any loosely typed language as lawful personally. You are right though, semantic whitespace is definitely more lawful (and imo definitely fucking evil)
The end of denial changing the dysphoria is so real and something I haven't seen anyone else talk about. Thanks.
Being a healthy weight, even underweight at times, and still hating my body fat because my body isn't the right shape. Dealt with that for a long time without realizing it for what it was, just thinking I was fat. Not feeling comfortable being a boyfriend. Being attracted to men and being fine with it but also feeling off, like I was attracted to men but wasn't gay. Wishing I was a lesbian. Being really jealous when a transfem friend of mine changed her voice. Being uncomfortable having people interact with my dick, and discovering bottoming and having that feel like who I was supposed to be.
I had a dream last night
In it, I was trying to sleep on my couch, miserable and hating myself, when I heard someone moving around my apartment. At first, I was worried about an intruder, but that was quickly replaced by gladness. The only person it could be is my one friend who lives within an hour of me. They must have gotten concerned I haven't been on discord or steam in a while and come over to check on me! The door to the apartment building is supposed to lock when it closes but it sticks open half the time and I don't bother locking my apartment door half the time as well so that's definitely it. Suddenly, there's a gunshot, and I feel the impact in my abdomen. I'm too shocked to do or say anything and after a second or two, the rest of the magazine follows into my chest. For a instant, I panic. A flash of betrayal, a million thoughts about how I can stop the bleeding, how much it's going to hurt, am I going to survive. Then, I realize that I'm a dumbass. I shouldn't (and with this realization, don't) f
I can't bear trying to get together with friends in person anymore
I'm always the one trying to put stuff together and nothing ever ends up happening. It's clear I matter a lot less to everyone than they matter to me and that hurts. I really really wish that giving up on having people in my life would stop me from craving social interaction.
Mentioned feeling suicidal to the wrong friend and he freaked out and gave me the classically unhelpful/actively harmful pep talk and advice without ever trying to fucking understand and it makes me feel so fucking invisible. Like, people only care about me when I impact them by upsetting them at the thought of me harming myself. They don't actually care, they just want to make themselves feel better, so I get the "be better, I don't want to hear about you being suicidal anymore" talk so they can put my mental illness in the "done" pile and go back to not thinking about me. I do have a couple friends who will actually listen and empathize and understand, but there's only so much you can lay on someone before it d
This post hit me like a bus
Shame I can't get hit by an actual bus
Life would be so much better if I wasn't experiencing it
I'm so tired. Why bother struggling to find insurance that lets me continue with my therapist. Why bother finding insurance at all. Why bother look for a job. Why put so much effort into a life I'm so tired of living? I know things won't improve. That they can't improve, really. Sometimes it might feel like things are better, but circumstances haven't changed, it's just the drugs making it not feel like it matters. I've given up on all these things that other people take for granted, and yet it still hurts to think about how I'll never get there. I'm so tired of it, and I don't see any way it ever changes. I just don't want to continue on. Why do people have to care about me? If they didn't, then I could just leave and not hurt them. Why isn't acceptable for me to just say "actually, nah, life isn't for me, see you never" and fucking die?
I'm pretty sure suicide's inevitable. At some point, I'm just not going to care enough about the guilt and go through with it, it's more just a matt
Timeline Questions
Hey all, as I've been thinking about who I want to be and how I want to transition, I've gotten to wondering about people's transition timelines in general. If it's something you're comfortable talking about, how long did it take you from realizing your trans to taking steps to transition? When did you start using different pronouns, when did you come out to people, how long did it take you to know you wanted HRT and then to start it?
I realized I wasn't cis a few months ago, and have been growing my hair out and experimenting with clothing. I know I want to get permanent facial hair removal, and am interested in HRT but have reservations, and would value hearing others experiences about how long it took them to know what they wanted. I'm a very hesitant and self-doubtful person in general, and I guess just feel a bit lost in how to go about self discovery here.
Editing to say thank you very much all for sharing, seeing how different everyone's experiences can be is honestly really
It's either kill myself or quit my job, so I'm quittingnmy job
When I can't find another and run out of savings in a few months, that's when Ill kill myself.
Honestly did a bit of a trial run last night, fastened a bag over my head and snuggled my stuffed animals on the couch to see what it would be like. It's definitely something I can go through with if/when it comes to it. Taking other steps to make life less unbearable first, hence the title. I don't really see my life ending any other way though tbh, just more of a question of when. If I'm lucky, it'll be when the climate change induced famine prices me out of being able to eat and I chose not to starve. Anyways, sorry for making you read this. Fuck.
Edit: should have killed myself
"Why can't you ever be on time?" Tom said belatedly.
Which of us is gonna get set off first?
Any chance direct messages will be supported any time soon?
It's the major thing holding me back from buying ad free. Trying to view dms instantly crashes the app and it's very frustrating.
Stopped being able to be in denial on friday...
and this popped into my head. As a friend said, it's confusing and scary but ignoring just makes you feel more confused and scared, and that's so accurate.