Are there exceptions? Absolutely.

Exceptions imply that these roles are not strictly inherent to animal (including human) behavior. If colonizing countries weren't all patriarchal, I'm sure we would've seen many more exceptions.

These exceptions exist for a reason, whether or not they fit your personal worldview.

But for most of the existence of the human species, it was just like that - males were taking care of food and protection, while females were doing the "safer" jobs, like childcare of gathering.

This is just a bad argument, and has been used to justify all kinds of awful things. why would the fact that humans have always done things a certain way imply that that's a good thing? Is slavery a good thing? rape? colonization? genocide?

Rigid gender roles have only truly served half of the human population. Even so, men have also suffered in other ways because of them. Why shouldn't we work to better everyone's lives, in as many ways as we can manage?

Yes, biology is complex, but the case of humans is rather clear-cut.

This is demonstrably false. Biologists have known as much for... quite a while. Please consider informing yourself before making claims about important topics.

do you have an old cell phone? (or, don't underestimate freecycle!) You could put it under your bed or something, so it's closer to the sound, and leave it recording. Maybe turn up the mic's sensitivity. Portable charge banks are helpful if you have one.

I don't necessarily believe that this trait is inherent to humankind; instead, I think it's a product of cultures that value things like power and hyperindividualism.

I do believe that there will always be (insecure) people who seek some level of power and/or wealth without regard for others. Whether or not they succeed would—I assume—depend on how that society views authority/skepticism/community/ect; if allowed, that would nudge society a little bit in that direction. And so on.

Sadly, , some governments and corporations have spent millenia aquiring and wielding their vast power and wealth to cripple and exploit other societies that they can benefit from without too much pushback. Which obviously ravages those cultures, too, and often by design.

So... it's a little hard to know for certain what is truly in our nature.

sure, some people would, but the opinions of the kinds of people who'd be judgemental over something as trivial as a goddamn pillow really aren't worth much imo.

Firstly, a disclaimer...while I shouldn't really have to say this given the language I've used, I will anyway: I am by no means talking about ALL men.

The problem is that this is not an unfounded stereotype, made evident by the fact that the discrepancy between how household and childcare tasks are divided between partners (heterosexual, at least) is still a significant and prevalent issue.

Subconsciously or otherwise, this sadly rings true with a lot of men, who, at least in part, want—and sometimes expect—a woman who will adopt every role a mother would take. That is, taking care of most of the chores/household management/childcare duties, and without protest. Even when, say, both of them work full-time jobs.

Too many of these men either 1. do not know how to do simple household tasks (and are not unlikely to have adopted learned helplessness as a result), 2. deliberately delay or fuck up chores to get their partner to get frustrated and give up on asking for help altogether, or 3. simply don't notice how much more work their partner is doing than they are.

I acknowledge that a lot of boys aren't taught how to cook do chores as much as girls are, and those who haven't been were failed by the adults in their life in that regard. It's not a valid excuse once you're an adult, though.

Have you had anyone take a look at your resume? When was the last time you reviewed it? Is it at least somewhat visually appealing? How long is it?

Unfortunately, it may be a good idea to "customize" each submission by incorporating keywords from the actual listing into your resume.

I'm not the one to give advice on this, really, but I've heard of people having a lot of success with networking and reaching out directly to recruiters/managers/ect.

that really sucks. :( it might be worthwhile to talk to a doctor about this then, if you haven't already. Maybe you would benefit from a sleep study.

idk... the fact that you were triggered enough by their post to add this comment certainly says a lot about how "soft" you are. :) the most sensitive people I've ever met have been boomers, personally.

when did OP mention their age, by the way?

if not trauma, perhaps shame? subconscious or otherwise. I mean, "torment" is a pretty extreme way to describe it.

it sounds like your discomfort might be beyond the kind of discomfort one gets by simply being under the influence of a substance (though tbh, I can't really relate lol).

unless it's really affecting your life, I wouldn't overthink it too much. Plenty of people have recurring unpleasant dreams/nightmares.

yeah, I've been wondering how much I should be sharing about my political opinions now... and a little concerned about my 15+ years of social media history.

The first thought that came to mind is, why would your uncle lie about that? I can't imagine he would have something to gain from it.

I would tell her that, regardless of which of them (or both) were truly "bad" people, they both likely did bad any number of bad, abusive, unforgivable things. Neither she nor her brother ever had any control over it. Your grandparents made their choices, as adults, and failed to properly care for their children. Period. All she can really do now is focus on doing what's best for herself and those around her.

I would strongly suggest that she go see a therapist to discuss all of this, if she hasn't already. It WILL be harmful for her mental health if she continues to ruminate about this or keeps cycling through the what-ifs without having ways to cope or focus attention elsewhere. Talking to you (or other family/friends) about it can only help so much.

this is really cool!

I hope you don't mind some hyper-detailed constructive criticism :) I don't know how to use Blender, but I'm good with faces and watched a loooot of Supernatural back in the day.

• while the bridge of Jensen's nose is pretty narrow, his lower nostrils are quite a bit wider than that, and the tip of his nose is a little more upturned.
• his nose is also more angular. I'd take a look at multiple pictures of him with various different kinds of lighting to see it more easily, but here's a good one:

-cheekbones are also more angular and (I think?) protrude slightly more in front. hard to explain. I think this pic shows it more clearly though

• cheekbones are also too wide
• lips are slightly too wide, too, and the upper vermilion border is more rounded/doesn't "swoop down" like that, so to speak. you got the pout down, though. lol
• his face shorter than that; there's too much space between the bottom of his nose/lips and lips/chin.
• I also want to say that his chin is slightly wider than that.

hope at least one of these things helps!

do you have nothing better to do than to complain over and over and over again about the posts of a single user?

the block button exists for a reason, if it upsets you this much.

I started 6, but so far I've only completed the first level. I feel like I'm letting our beloved Miyazaki down. 😔

one day I'll play it for real.

I wish. lol. no, I just became an adult.

I can definitely understand why someone would feel so nostalgic about them, as a fellow commie. personally, I really enjoyed our mall's general vibe around Christmastime especially. I associate them with a more carefree time, as well.

As for me, I really miss acting. was in musicals and drama/humor speech competitions all 4 years of high school, and even went to states/nationals for the latter, then acting classes in college. it's such a satisfying creative outlet for me.

I suppose I could start doing it again now, but the time investment would be so much more significant than it was when I was in school, and I cant help but think that my time would be better spent toward something more "productive".

also, the daycare I went to as a little kid used to serve us soy sauce flavored ramen with mashed potatoes (including butter/milk). so healthy! 😬 I really loved it, though, as long as the noodles weren't overcooked. I could go for some now.

I also feel particularly passionate about this, as felt totally dismissed by nearly every adult in my life as a kid. That shit feels so defeating and isolating. it can seriously fuck you up.

in addition to a lot of others already mentioned (there's a lot of overlap)

History:

• Step Back History

culture/politics:

• Shanspeare
• FD Signifier

writing/education:

• Zoe Bee

media/ect:

• Tale Foundry (technically about writing fiction, but they also discuss media in general along with its themes, character archetypes, ect. it's more interesting than it sounds)
• Pop Culture Detective
• Jacob Geller (mostly video games)
• My Little Thought Tree (also psychology)
• Broey Deschanel

there are more ways to take action than to vote.

I'm just as dissolutioned with the voting system as you are, but I'm also aware that sitting around complaining and acting like you know better than everyone else is only obnoxious accomplishes nothing.

either do literally anything at all to contribute, or go find an empty room to whinge into. I'm sure you'll enjoy the echo.