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Oral should be the last thing considered on that list right after sublingual.
A better way to determine what HRT to take is this linear list:
- Implants/Pellets. Hard to get. Requires very minor surgery, but they last up to a year or something.
- Injections. Hard to get prescribed in some parts of the world. Easy and cheap to get DIY.
- Patches. Expensive. Some find these don't work well on their skin, or that they don't stick well because they exercise a lot. Apothecaries can run out of these easily and you might suddenly be out for a while. You can tape these down with body safe tape or try a different location to see if it sticks better.
- Gel. Some find these don't work super well on their skin. Relatively cheap when you do DIY.
- Spray. Some find these don't work super well on their skin. Also relatively cheap on DIY.
- Pills, sublingual. Slightly higher rate of side effects (very small). Article on oral vs sublingual.
- Pills, oral. Higher rate of side effects (small). Another article on oral vs sublingual.
Injections can be scary but they are very convenient. With valerate you take injections every five days, with enanthate you take injections every 7 days. Undecylate can be taken once a month.
Most routes require that you take blockers which can come with their own side effects and risks. Injections and implants do not need this, and some can even do HRT without blockers on patches, gel, or spray, but this depends on the individual. I therefore recommend injections as the safer and most comfortable option.
If you do patches I recommend building a stockpile of reserve HRT in case patches are hard to get for a while. This has happened many times and will happen again. You should ideally have a little stockpile for every route, but it's extra smart on patches.
Gel/spray is a great option too, but you do need to apply it once or even multiple times per day. It can be a bit of a hassle.
Most pills can be taken sublingually but not all. If they can be taken sublingually then there's really no reason not to. You might need to take less pills this way too meaning pills become cheaper in practice, or that you can build a stockpile easily if they are prescribed.
All routes are equally effective in terms of results.
Also visible scarring from needles is not much of a thing.
The links in the meme are very good breakdowns of HRT. Pills are fine, but should be avoided if possible.
Also we have a diy hrt community https://lem.lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/diyhrt and a hrt room on the blåhaj and 196 matrix
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The community says "SFW" in the sidebar
I've washed it a couple of times... I promise 🥲
Wow! Your nails are absolutely stunning. I have everything I need to do my nails but I just never get around to trying it
Nah the nobel peace prize is from a norwegian committee. The others are indeed swedish
Edit: It's still stupid because it's not the norwegian government that awards the prize
I understand the concern, but what we are scared of is putting the idea into a parents head that their kids identity might not be valid because it's just a phase or caused by trauma. Detransitioning is valid and it happens, but many have this idea that it happens at a much higher rate than it does because stopping temporarily due to social pressure or for practical reasons is often counted as detransitioning in statistics, in addition to the narrative being useful to people out to delegitimize us.
I think creating a safe space for someone to explore themselves is the better way to deal with this, rather than talk about letting doctors gatekeep peoples identities or talking about detransitioning in this way. People need to know they can try something and figure out that nah, it's not for them. Being trans is not about following a formula or conforming, but about understanding that we are free to express ourselves in whatever way is the most comfortable for us. Trying hormones, or a dress, or a cutting your hair short, or whatever, and then assessing if it's for you should be valid as the alternative is dooming many to never being allowed to be themselves in order to save the less than one percent that might regret it (and a safe space to explore would make this less of an issue anyways, HRT only does so much if you only take it briefly).
But again, we understand that you came from a place of love and wanting to be helpful, but we needed to remove the comment.
The detrans thing. One percent or less of people detrans because of genuine regret, and that sexual abuse thing is a gatekeepy thing that has no verifiable source tmk.
Edit: And I think it's one percent or less of the people who detransition do so because of regret, which is to say the actual rate is quite low.
https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/biochemical-dysphoria
It doesn't really matter if the explanation is true, but the experience is something that many of us go through. The experience that we feel like empty zombies and that after HRT we finally feel real.
At some point after starting HRT I had days where I started liking what I saw in the mirror (and seeing a woman) despite knowing that I objectively do not pass or anything like that. It's not constant for me, but I have more good days than bad days. Liking what you see is partially gonna be a mental thing, and that's something HRT might do for you or it might need therapy or something else.
I'm not gonna promise that these things will happen for you, but I hope they will.
Hope you will feel better soon 🫂
Hi!
Reading this thing might provide you with some pointers: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/
Hopefully parents and transmasc people can provide you with more specific pointers, but more generally I can tell you that peoples needs and goals can vary a lot, so this is one of those things were having an open mind and good communication is key.
It already sounds like you're supporting your son. One of the first things I would recommend is sitting down and asking him if "he/him" is something he wants to go with and if he is your "son" or something else.
I would also look into HRT in whatever country you live in. It might not be something he wants, but if he does please be aware that many of us absolutely need HRT to make our lives worth living. It's one of those things that varies from person to person. You don't need to have this conversation right away, but many of us suffer from constant depression since the start of puberty, and HRT is how this depression is treated. In many places minors are only offered hormone blockers to start with, and then full on hormone replacement therapy is only available later. It depends on country and region. Full HRT is ideal, but we usually take what we can get.
The effects of HRT are covered in the link I shared earlier under androgenic puberty. You should probably sit down and go over the effects with your kid or ask if they know already. I was not aware that HRT was an option when I was 15 and my life would have been drastically better today had I known.
In some countries therapists might try to talk your son out of being trans or transitioning in some version of what is known as "conversion therapy". This doesn't work and is generally considered a form of torture and is being banned in more and more countries, please make sure this isn't happening or won't happen to your child. It won't work and will just make him suppress himself and feel more shame and self-hatred.
If you live somewhere hostile to trans people or somewhere where our situation is rapidly getting worse then I recommend trying to move somewhere better if this is within your means. I know this isn't always as simple as we would like it to be. If you live within the united states I would recommend leaving if you have the option, or at least look into moving to a progressive state. Trans people and our allies are increasingly worried that the US is gearing up towards genocide against us, which might sound very dramatic, but this unfortunately is reality. The government is continually not just taking away rights, protections, and treatment options for trans people, but is also putting in a lot of effort to dehumanize us.
I hope this is useful and not just something that makes you anxious :P It's a lot. Be sure to take care of yourself as well. There are support groups out there for parents and partners of trans people, especially online. Regular therapy might be useful too if available to you.
I should probably reinforce that the most important thing you can do is be supportive and to talk to your son. He knows better than me and any expert what he needs and wants. Be careful when googling stuff, there's lots of misinformation online so please make sure any link you look at is actually pro trans and not something aimed at the ignorant to fearmonger and mislead.
Here are some more good links:
- https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/
- https://trans-resources.info/
- https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/115zI3opsYcJAiygoiH0d0MIghMRz3WMcivXeDQ9wbkQ/htmlview (sources for packers and binders)
- https://www.equaldex.com/ (simple and unnuanced overview of queer rights across the world. you can look up a country for a more detailed breakdown)
Best of luck to you and your son!
Helloo Reilyh <3
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The way it should be
Because of how this meme is usually used it just makes it seem like you're saying outlawing being transgender is good for kids
2019
uh oh
Correct!