1.Went very very VERY low contact with my nparent, which is something I would have never imagined doing when 2025 started and I feel so proud of myself for having this boundary. Being a people pleaser in recovery, feels like I can exhale again.
2.Got my very own atelier where I create and keep busca just on my art. It took me thirty years! And I love having this New space.
Oh boy! I got one of those too. My condolences to you. I know how exasperating it is to have to endure all those "I wish I had your mom. You are sooo Lucky she's your mom" comments while dying inside.
And yeah, smear campains are their thing when they are no longer in control of you, so they control the narrative. I lost all my maternal side of the family brcause of this, it hurt like a mofo but it worked out for the better for me and my husband and kid♥️
Right now on the road to no contact after years and years of grayrocking.
Safe first✨️
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Yeah I have asked for suggestions here before and they were pretty good. I also avoid any lists of "Best of" "Best sellers" etc. As much as I can because they are not usually good.
Try using "I" statements instead of "you" statements, for example: "You make me feel so angry" is blamey, accusatory and points a finger to the other person and most people stop listening after feeling attacked.Instead use "I feel angry when: __________" And then name whatever the reason is as neutrally as possible: I feel neglected when the dishes are left out, I feel unheard when I get on my car and the tank is empty, I feel hurt when I cannot express my concerns, etc etc.
In my experience this works in two ways: The other person does not feel attacked and might be willing to actually listen and work on
whatever the issue you peeps are having.
Oh! Another big one is to come up with a don't interrumpt method that works for you.Some people use the pillow turn, some people use a timer but the most creative I have seen is that whenever this couple of people needed to discuss whatever issue, they would get out a bowl of some sort of snack be it grapes, chips, etc. And the one chewing was the one listening, whenever chewing was over the talking person would stop and exchange places lol.
What I personally use with my kid and SO is to have mutual agreements before starting a serious talk, for example:
" I love you and want to work together with you to solve this, we are both smart compassionate people, it is not you versus me, it is both of us against the problem."
In a not so loving enviroment, the agreement and approach would be different:
" OK I am here to talk about ______ I want us to solve this and will do my best to achieve that as I hope you do too. I will not tolerate being insulted, yelled at or patronized. If unfortunately any of those things happen during our conversation I will be leaving the room and we will have to reschedule at a better time that works for both of us"
I too have the needle fear whenever I get vaccinated or blood drawn I get super anxious and I have passed out a couple of times... then I also have several tattooes. I can't explain why those do not bother or scare me.
We don't celebrate valentine's day so just staying home doing weekly chores.