It's so interesting how beliefs like this do indeed make the reality that way.

It's already unique. I can't get what I get here anywhere else.

Always :D as long as you don't smell and are decently attractive. I like hugs!

Those eyes say nothing like that. You have no real clue what these eyes say. You just like to anthropomorphize this dog and attach your own human narrative to it. You're free to do it, just don't state it as fact.

Of course you can create it basically anywhere. But if you're going to allow posting of pictures of women in bikinis, your community will be mainly used to masturbate, that much is guaranteed. So if that is the case, it makes complete sense to put it on lemmynsfw.com.

I'm not sure how many are actually interested directly in bikinis. I.e. if there was no woman attached to them, would people actually like and comment on pictures of bikinis, or start discussion threads about topics related to bikinis? I mean sure, there are probably some people, but I'm also pretty sure they're vastly outnumbered by people interested in bikinis because a woman is clothed by them.

You can't change people. They have to want it themselves. If she's not looking for any help, there's nothing you can do.

The only thing that might happen if you're not a very actually good friend with them, is they might dial it back in your presence to not be annoyed by you about it.

Complaining does not constitute "wanting help". Most people complain just because it makes them feel better in the moment.

Nix zu danken. Ist verständlich das mit dem alleine sein.

Ich hab selbst vor 2.5 Jahren einvernehmlich ne 7 jährige Beziehung beendet, ich habe die Grundlagen geändert und sie hat dann gesagt, dass das für sie nicht geht. War danach auch ziemlich am Arsch xD

Dann mal viel Spaß mit dem remaster. Ich hab zu der Zeit viel Dota gespielt :)

Makes sense to me. I came back to this a little late, did not see your replies to my comment(s) until now. Having read everything you wrote: your parents not at home (I thought they were), she reducing sex massively, her not wanting to talk about you, the increase in contact to the guy, all seemed to me like she was not attracted to you anymore.

I'm really sorry. If you need someone to talk to or something (in German as well if you like, your name sounds like that, I'm from Germany), we can if you want. I haven't had a situation like this, but I know how much breakups hurt.

So to get to your actual question, from what exactly you wrote you definitely seem to be overreacting to this specific situation. They're at her parents home, she's unlikely to have any intentions to cheat on you there.

However, if you don't mind me saying, your relationship also doesn't sound completely secure to me. Would you mind some more questions regarding the general relationship and yourself and some advice in that regard or are you fine with this for now? :)

I'm sorry if this is not what you're asking... But sex 2-3 times a week to 2-4 times a year? Are you really ok with that? This is what stands out to me most here.

But isn't "pick up multiple orders at a restaurant, then figuring out in which order to deliver them to minimize time spent delivering" the traveling salesman problem? I thought that's what the post referred to.

https://lemmyverse.net/communities

Gibt keinen Grund, nicht mehrere Sachen zu machen. Klar zeigt es Voreingenommenheit, wenn Sachen, die Neukäufe anregen, präferiert implementiert werden, aber deswegen muss man generell guten Dingen nicht im Weg stehen, nur weil es effektivere gibt, die sinnvollerweise zuerst drankommen sollten.

Die Frage ist, ob diese Maßnahmen wirklich den Effekt haben, der rumposaunt wird, ich kann mir vorstellen, dass diese Analyse maßlos übertrieben ist und viel weniger Probleme durch tatsächlich alte Autos kommen, und vielmehr durch die Art der Leute, die diese alten Autos fahren. Wurde bestimmt nicht gescheit separiert. Weil alte Autos werden wohl öfter von Fahranfängern oder Senioren gefahren.

Ja und keine Pflicht für über 70 jährige Eignungstests fürs Fahren zu machen.

You're likely gonna experience racism in some form in any community you go to where you are the minority. People are racist, not people of some specific skin color.

So your assessment is correct, if you go to a majority black community you're probably gonna find people racist against white people.

But when you go to the US, white is still the majority. And if you're not the majority, you're mostly still a large part. Statistically, the most racism you'll experience is everyday racism, where maybe some black people believe you're an asshole even though you aren't. Most of the time you're not going to experience anything.

So they have a dedicated space for spam. Still is spam.

I don't necessarily think people can be evil.

I know of some of my abusers that they were abused themselves. They knew what they were doing to me wasn't right but it gave them feelings of power in a world where they otherwise felt powerless.

For others, bullying me was a social sport, just something you did to "belong" to a certain group.

I think what they did was evil, but I don't think they were evil people. They were normal people with inadequate upbringing put into painful situations that resulted in bullying/abusing me being the only perceived "good" outcome for them. For almost all people who do evil things, this is the case.

I think we all possess the ability to do evil acts in response to certain stimuli, many are just lucky enough never to receive the set of stimuli that causes them to be evil, so they can allow themselves to think they are different, i.e. "good", and start labeling other people a certain way, i.e. "evil".

Conversely, I also think all the people who do evil acts are also able to do good acts in certain situations.

What we then call a "good" or an "evil person" is just a person where we perceive a larger share of behaviors attributed to that adjective. But are they evil or good people, is that a quality inherent to them? Or is the environment they grew up in evil or good? Or are humans in general evil or good? Is our perception of the share of each set of behaviors even right?

I think no one deserves for their whole self to be called evil. I think you can call actions evil, and some people may have a lot of these actions, and they're worthy of being avoided because of that, but I believe they're the same kind of person than everyone else, just put into terrible situations. So no, I don't think people can be evil.

Interesting. Thanks for sharing. How did those encounters affect you?

What's stopping you? No money? :D

Just follow (good) recipes. Use recipes from a recipe aggregator (I use Chefkoch because German) that has multiple recipes of the same dish that users can rate to determine which recipes are "good".

Most of them have a "preparation time" scale, just use the ones with an acceptable one for you.

When you don't know cooking well yet, you should start doing this so you learn the techniques and things to look out for.

I'd cook a big tray of eggplant lasagna and freeze most of it, so I have food for multiple days. Once you know a recipe well, it's generally a big cooking time saver to make a lot of it and then freeze.