I agree in general - if the situation is me, a straight man, with two straight women, it generally doesn’t sound appealing. I don’t want to be in a situation where I feel like I need to please and divide attention between two partners who are both focused on me. It’s a recipe for performance anxiety and one or both partners feeling left out.

That said, being with two women who are in to me and into each other could be a lot of fun. At that point, there is a lot more flexibility in activity and I would feel less pressure to be the one to make sure both partners are satisfied. Awesome activities: double blowjob, being on the bottom and eating one woman out while the other fucks or sucks on me. Fucking one partner while the other eats the third partner out, watching them two play with each other…

Or being with two women who would both enjoy taking a pause and just watching the action would also be a lot of fun. But I know it takes a certain mindset to be able to enjoy that and not feel left out and/or jealous.

I’ve always thought that a foursome with another couple would actually be easier to manage. This is especially true if everyone is straight in the scenario. This is because, despite there being one more person in the mix, it would be easier to “pair up” and switch around the pairing up such that people aren’t getting left out. Of course, the potential for jealousy and feeling left out remains in this scenario… just a bit less likely.

As far as I know, “whiskey dick” refers to not being able to get it up, losing your erection, or having a partial erection due to drunkenness.

To your original question, alcohol/drunkenness will often make a guy last longer. I think this is a relatively well known phenomenon.

One reason is desensitization: alcohol tends to numb sensations. This leads to needing harder oand/or longer stimulation to get off.

Another reason is mental state: alcohol tends to help people let go of inhibitions and nerves. Guys (really, people in general) can get anxious about their performance. Worry about cumming too fast is often self fulfilling; the anxiety and focus on the problem makes it happen. Alcohol usually lowers anxiety, keeping that vicious cycle at bay. It’s the same with erection issues. Alcohol can quell anxiety and make it easier to get it up… but it’s also walking a tightrope; too much alcohol and whiskey dick may occur.

Edit: oops, I’m not a lady. Just a dude who has experienced of all these things :p

It looks like an oddly worded way to ask a question to straight people. I think the first part of the title would work better as something like “Straight identifying people, have you ever…” or the question could have been asked more generally like “have you ever had a sexual experience that didn’t match with your sexual identity? How did it go?”

That’s some bad photoshop there.

A workaround for you: upvote twice (ie upvote and remove the upvote) to get the post marked as read.

There have been meta discussions on this topic and there really isn’t a clear answer. It quickly devolves into “how do you define NSFW”. And there are good arguments for a broad variety of answers there.

Looking at OP’s particular kink as an example, one argument is that, even though you’re showing completely clothed people, you probably shouldn’t be showing pictures of sexy girls wearing watches on your work computer. It isn’t porn, but I think your coworkers would quickly see that you are getting a sexual kick out of it regardless. on the other hand, most people consider this a porn instance. There are a lot of things that aren’t safe for work that really don’t fit with what most people consider the purpose of this instance (porn).

As I recall, the instance doesn’t prohibit SFW content. It’s just that people here aren’t looking for SFW content and a lot of them are going to downvote SFW content because they don’t want to see it. The instance could try to tell people not to downvote these posts, but that’s not going to do much to change behavior. While some people do follow such guidelines, most aren’t going to follow upvote/downvote guidelines and are going to vote as they wish.

OP is in the process of “discovering” eugenics. Good times.

OP, first thing is terminology. Yes, cosmo and the like have referred to the prostate as “the male g-spot”, but you’re better off using accurate terminology. You are looking for a “prostate massager”, “prostate toy”, or “prostate wand”. You’ll have an easier time finding products if you use those terms.

https://lemmynsfw.com/c/collared

Only 3 posts, but I think this is the only one.

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Edited and she’s wearing butt pads.

Director: “No, not like that! We need to see your tongues!”

actors proceed to stick out their tongues and flick together

Director: “Yes, perfect!”

Me: … bye.

This is nothing new fighting pedophilia and human trafficking are the smokescreen used to enact most laws controlling the internet.

Edit to fill in what I’m implying: these laws (eg FOSTA-SESTA) are either ineffective or counterproductive in their stated goal, while simultaneously having broad add-on effects, generally harming free speech.

FOSTA-SESTA makes sex work less safe for those who are not trafficked. Meanwhile it pushes actual traffickers “underground” and off the internet, making it much harder for law enforcement to find and successfully prosecute them. Bonus: the law has been used to push sex education and general discussion of sex and sexuality off of major websites.

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Another older fart here. As others have said, you look good! Wearing it a few times to get used to it is a great tip.

Especially since they are inexpensive clothes, if you need to clean them, wash and dry them carefully. Dunno your setup, but make sure the washer is set to cold or the low side of warm. Dry medium and don’t over dry. If the washer and dryer have a “permanent press” setting, that should work ok. Immediately hang them; don’t let them sit in the dryer.

Yes, “Nitrile Rubber”, not to be confused with natural/latex rubber, butyl rubber, etc.

Nitrile is the standard material for latex-free exam gloves.

I’m a fan of nitrile. Silicone is easy to fit because it tends to have a lot of stretch, but I find it also tends to pinch a bit because of that stretch. Nitrile is still relatively soft and has some stretch, but quite a bit less than silicone. Less stretch means you need to buy the right size, but they are inexpensive and you can get multipacks to figure out what size you need.

I’m curious what you found. I only found one - the alien stroker - it looks like it could be 100% silicone, but noticeably the description doesn’t clarify whether it is a blend or not. And there are 0 reviews.

FYI, if it is 100% silicone, you can boil it to clean it. If it is a blend (or not silicone at all), boiling should fuck it up.

I have looked for the same in the past but didn’t buy because after researching it didn’t sound like a silicone stroker would work well. From what I saw, silicone is just not stretchy/soft enough. Because of this a 100% silicone product is not going work well unless you can get one that is the exact right size for your dick.

I didn’t look further to see if I could find anyone making silicone strokers in a variety of diameters - I suppose that could be a solution.

If you do find something that claims to be soft, stretchy, and silicone, you should do some digging to see if the mfg is trustworthy.

All that said, if anyone has a 100% silicone stroker that does work, I’d love to hear from them!

Amazing work!

I got tricked by this when I started on lemmy: You probably have “show read” unchecked in your user settings. Unfortunately, this setting applies for your own posts, so as soon as you view it, it disappears from the feed for you, even when browsing the community.