Why I Never Want to Have My Own Place

https://redlib.catsarch.com/r/stupidpol/comments/1rd3x2n/why_i_never_want_to_have_my_own_place/

Don't look now, but it looks like the NYT/PMC crowd has its eyes on appropriating communal living...

I'll fully admit I'm on board with versions of democratic socialism, but not communal living like this. There are very limited situations I could even imagine this working well. The utopia the writer depicts is a fantasy--the idea that there is no internal power dynamic, that decisions and resource sharing and responsibility delegation is equitable and not at all problematic, even the idea that this is financially feasible for many people, especially somewhere where everyone can be employed at a good enough job--it's all laughable. I've been a part of quite a few roommate arrangements across three different cities, and most of those were hard with even 3 or 4 people. The biggest group was 5 of us, and oddly that worked out well but it was because we all led fairly independent lives and kept the communal areas clean as we went along, and when we wanted to have fun together there was no pressure.

I've daydreamed about having a large piece of property with a few buildings, setting up a bed and breakfast/small wedding venue or even a small Catskills (New York) style bungalow getaway (I used to go to one of these with my family as a kid), and have additional buildings for in laws, maybe even one close friend and their family. I've even found a couple of "perfect" properties for this sort of thing, but the price was $1.5mil or more. But honestly, I am not close enough with 18 other adults that I would truly trust them with raising my children, with financial/contractual obligations, with the ups and downs and changes that any person or family might go through over the course of a couple decades. Some people would have to compromise their beliefs and values more than others, and not in small ways.