i am deeply struggling with fascism in the US as an AuDHD minority

i am a 36 year old gay non-binary transfem who only last year learned they are autistic and living with OCD. i have had ADHD since childhood and knew i was depressed and anxious since i was a kid. for my entire life, i have been subconsciously masking my behaviors and learning how to blend in that it became a default position unknown to me that i was engaging in. when the truth was discovered it was like a floodgate had opened up and all of my neurodivergent behaviors made themselves front and center.

i have always had impulse issues and paranoid future-predicting thinking. my childhood was completely unstable and i had to grow the hell up quickly due to the abuse and emotional neglect. i fought to get ahead, i lied to protect myself and my mother, and i had to make my own hard decisions without compromise. let's say over time all of that became disordered and amplified by my autism, ADHD, and OCD.

well, to spare turning this into a therapy session, let's say i haven't done great for myself. i am, somehow, able to function (as in remain alive), barring that i am completely lost. lately, shit has been becoming more and more unbearable for me. as ICE nazis kidnap people off the streets and kill those who resist, as our country continues to set up transgender people as a boogeyman and erodes bodily autonomy and welcomes theocratic control, i find my country becoming more and more unsafe for me.

my mental health has been crumbling since 2024. the gaslighting from general society (go to work; everything will work out etc etc), the hopelessness on display (people pleading for someone to do something), the constant threat of escalating conflict.. it came to a head last year and it influenced me to do something fucking illegal and i was arrested for it.

i'm dealing with legal issues for the first time in my life because my safety is at risk from the government i live under, and it has driven me absolutely fucking mental. i did what, at the time, made sense to my paranoid and impulsive brain. i was so focused on making sure i had what i needed that nothing else mattered. because what if i am caught off guard and unprepared? what if i must leave my house in a moment's notice? i don't want to need money and resources during an escape. i want it all taken care of as much as it can be.

my actions led to a traumatic growth period which ultimately altered my perspective on myself and my neurodivergence, but it terrifies me that it took something drastic to guide me on a more productive path. i have dealt with some stressful shit in my life and legal issues have never visited me.

luckily, my attorney is confident in a good outcome for me, so i am not too worried there, but my concern is ultimately with myself and my own processing. i have learned a lot over the last year that is helping me understand myself more, but i am still finding myself overwhelmed and mentally exhausted.

if anyone can relate, can you share your coping strategies? what do you do to try and ground yourself or remain mindful? i have no control, everything is merely happening to me and i am largely powerless. that is the worst feeling in all of this.. feeling as though i have no choice but to allow this to happen to me, to us.