Our calendar stresses me out but at least it's full of pretty colors

Getting to know a meta more closely? Finally attending that local polyam meetup you've been eyeing for the last 2 years? Coming out to your family about your other partners?

It's a new year and I thought it would be fun to share some goals we have and some things were looking forward to in 2025! Maybe some folks here have some experiences they can share with you about your goals or excitements for the year and we can all help each other continue to grow!

This is a perfect time for newbies or folks curious about polyamory to learn and possibly explore your own feelings around it, so feel free to chime in (respectfully!) if you've got questions about what someone is saying!

So many party invites to juggle because I wanna go to all the things all of my partners want to go to. So many gifts to buy for really important people. So many mini gift exchanges to be scheduled. Every partner you or a partner or a meta adds makes everything infinitely more complicated.

It's both the most loving time of the year and also the most complicated part of the year.

I just had to share some exciting news! I recently reconnected with someone I dated long ago when my nesting partner and I opened up our relationship. It's been years since we last saw each other, and it felt fantastic to meet in person again! Looking back, I realize our original split came down to my immaturity, but they were incredibly gracious and welcomed me back into their life.

I have to admit, I’m a little worried about how things might be with my nesting partner, but they’ve reassured me that they’re feeling compersion, which is such a relief! Overall, I'm just over the moon about this joyful poly experience and grateful for the chance to see my previous partner again. It feels so good to share this happy moment!

I was at a casual lover's show last night and their partner was flirting and being really sweet to me all night. Before I left, they ran up to me and kissed me before running back off into the night which was a cute surprise.

We ran into each other around town this morning and talked and we might try to go on a group date soon :p

Being in group spaces in the past was maybe one of the lowest-jealousy poly experiences I've had so far...but maybe it was because us two were crushing a bit!

It's been a rough week. :c Expect lengthy verbal-processing post in the coming days.

I haven't been polyam long enough to really form a strong historical opinion on this so I'm curious what Hexbears think.

Basically what I'm asking is; do folks in the polyamory community overall feel more ethical or less ethical these days, knowing there is a huge influx of people new to the community due to polyamory becoming a more culturally accepted thing in Western culture and media?

Basically I see lots of new people in the last year or two who "saw it on tv and wanted to try it. " Some of them no doubt are doing it ethically where others are clearly polybombing their partner as an excuse to cheat. So it's been tough to form an opinion on if polyamory in the media is helping or hurting the community at large.

Curious what others think.

Inspired by a subthread in the post on sci-fi and fantasy tropes. A few books I've liked:

Iron Widow: a YA novel set in a fantasy version of medieval China. The main character has more than one love interest and from what I remember has a nice little spiel about resisting the social pressure to choose. I won't give any spoilers where it goes but I'm looking forward to the sequel this year.

Sing for the Coming of the Longest Night: a cute little winter soltice tale about two metamours that begrudgingly team up to go rescue their respective partner from a magical realm.

The Giddy Death of Gays and the Strange Demise of Straights: a bit of a chaotic story with a whirlwind cast of characters trying to make sense of all the heterodox ways that they love each other, amid a rising homophobic backlash. This one is a little rough around the edges as I believe it's self-published but has great showcasing of some unique kinds of connection. Set in Wales.

As for movies I have

Want to try to reboot this comm a bit, it was never THAT active but I want to make a real effort to try to build it up anyway! So here's a small discussion thread

What's something that's small and fun that you enjoy about polyamory? There are lots of big obvious things but the longer I am polyamorous the more I come to really enjoy the small things too.

Polymathematics has solved the 3-smooching problem, but whether this solution can be generalized into an N-smooching solution is yet unknown.

[CW: possible manipulation/abuse, venting]

I love this man and do not feel like I am living up to my vision of love right now. What follows is a rundown of the challenges and none of the virtues and beauty of our relationship. I have a good assessment of the pull of our relationship, but want an outsider's view of the pushes away.

I've been with my BF for a bit over a year now. When we first stated dating, he was very upfront about being in a KTP non-hierarchal relationship with his live-in GF. I met both of them at once and was initially better friends with his GF. The two of them had been together about 2.5 years, and my BF recounts their relationship only really escalating after he got engaged to his shithead ex (important later). While not super knowledgeable about poly, I also was not looking for a serious relationship when he asked me out.

Fast forward to mid last Summer when my life situation got more stable, and we realized our values and bodies synced up really well togethe

Hello Polyam Comrades

Hopefully your week is starting off well! Sorry for not posting over the holidays, my brain wasn't functional enough to do it, but here we are back at it in the new year. To help foster a safe and inclusive space for polaymory discussion, we wanted to provide weekly discussion topics! The goal is that we share our stories and our experiences, listen to each other, provide safe space for each other, and learn from each other. Please ask questions and provide answers in good faith only, let's be the wonderful communicators I know we all are.

This week's discussion topic is: Ask That Burning Question You Have!

Maybe you're new to polyamory and are unsure about something and need some clarifications, maybe you've seen polyamory in a movie and are wondering if that's how it really is, maybe you're

I haven't finished listening to this, but it seems good so far. I was really hoping these two goofuses would get some poly people on after their last discussion of it - and they did!

Also little shout out to this podcast. Pretty good in the genre of a couple guys dealing with being alive.

Was my first experience with polyamory and im dealing with some sads. Would like to talk to people who understand rather than judge.

Hello Polyam Comrades

Hopefully your week is starting off well! To help foster a safe and inclusive space for polaymory discussion, we wanted to provide weekly discussion topics! The goal is that we share our stories and our experiences, listen to each other, provide safe space for each other, and learn from each other. Please ask questions and provide answers in good faith only, let's be the wonderful communicators I know we all are.

This week's discussion topic is: Share a Funny or Entertaining Polyamory Story

This can be anything...a weird date you went on, a coming out story, or just something personally relevant to you. Please keep in mind your own safety and security when telling personal stories; don't use real names and avoid any details which may be personally identifying for yourself or for anyone in you