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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/Subject_You3151 on 2023-10-07 01:35:23.

21M

Every relationship I’ve ever had starts off with me and the girl having tons of sex, then 4 months later it almost just kind of fizzles out, like we just lose interest.

I really feel like the sex is part of the reason, jumping in way to quick, doing to much, then getting bored.

Whenever my next relationship is, I want to wait a while before we do anything. However I’ve never even tried to do this in any of my past relationships, we just always jumped straight into it.

Advice on how to start and keep a relationship going without having sex early on?

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/Imighthavegonetoofar on 2023-10-06 22:33:50.

I've (19F) never been in a relationship. That's not to say I haven't had the opportunity, but I've frankly rejected everyone who tried because they didn't meet my standards.

So far, I only have three: my man can't be five years older than me, smoke any substances, or live far away.

99% of the guys that talk to me are significantly older than me. Of the two that managed to be around my age, one tried to pick me up by asking me for a cigarette and made it clear I was exotic to him. The other lived too far away, which is a shame cause he was an engineer. Unfortunately, he didn't take no for an answer and crossed boundaries which made me snap and killed all his c

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/woodflizza on 2023-10-07 04:50:46.

I'm turning 35 in 3 months and I have zero experience with women. Wtf went wrong. I just never even tried. I just look in the mirror and I don't feel like I'm good enough or worthy. I've never seen any 'signals' from women which confirms to me that what I see in the mirror is true, I am probably just ugly. Is it all in my head?

Since I was 16, I had this idea in my head that "I will start dating girls once I've maximized my potential and reached my final potential" and this goal was like basically I was rich, had a nice house, car, perfect physique, bla bla. Nonsense ideology

Just feeling lost. There's still too many things "wrong" with me. What would you have me do giv

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/Th_rowa_wa_y on 2023-10-07 01:46:22.

I've been single for my (25M) entire life, and no success despite trying. I've done tried actively looking for relationships in person, through friends, through OLD, I've tried just being myself and not looking for relationships and pursuing my own hobbies and socializing out and about, etc. Nothing has resulted in any relationship or seemingly any interest from women (which like, women aren't a hivemind but for the sake of simple language, you know what I mean).

I already have a good social circle of friends. I have a decent job with various trajectories for growth. I have interesting hobbies and interests that overlap both in mainstream and unique/niche

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/elon_fusk on 2023-10-06 23:57:36.

To all the short guys out there, whats your height and what works the best for you in getting dates?

I'm 5'6, brown guy and not getting any luck on dating apps, clubs/bars and cold approaching. I can easily hold a conversation and make friends with strangers but not great at flirting. Don't have many close friends either as I recently relocated to west an year ago. Don't know what to do. Would like to know what specifically worked for you?

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/Spiritual-Emu-2180 on 2023-10-07 02:25:42.

I can’t be the only one to experience this…

One of my biggest frustrations in dating has been the guys I go out with, I’d say 80% of them don’t have the ability to stop talking about themselves. They have a lack of reciprocity in a conversation and complete lack of interest in who I am.

Last night I went on a first date that I expected to be great. It was the first time in a long time I even had butterflies before a first date. But again, I was so disappointed: We went to a bar and within 10 minutes, I knew how the date was going to go because he had already cut me off multiple times without an apology or even noticing.

I’m telling you, every

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/juststattingaround on 2023-10-07 02:11:02.

Okay so I know a girl who is average looking. She is slightly overweight, has a bunch of emotional baggage and kind of puts down everyone around her. But she SLAYS when it comes to the guys. She has so much game, I don’t even understand it. Guys give her 100% of their attention and they follow through and ask to date her. She gets whole relationships but since she’s kind of a jerk, they never last 😂 But she’s always the one that does the breaking up!

Then there’s my friend who has at least 2 or 3 strangers tell her everyday how “gorgeous” she is. I catch guys staring at her all the time and they look away whenever she looks at them. Guys fumble

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/T-Away738182773 on 2023-10-06 21:34:38.

I like to think myself as a average-slightly above guy. No means hot, but not bad.

I always get called a good person by…well…everyone. Not “nice” as in nice guy, no, good. I keep myself in shape, I love helping people and going out my way for them (not in a pushover sense, in a way I like to make people happy).

I’m currently a uni student, chasing my life goals whilst working part time. I’ve got a car, hobbies, I’m funny (women constantly say that I’m funny and entertaining, I’m always making them laugh!) and naturally flirty when I try.

I’ve not had a date in going on 5 years. I’m a bit sad about that really as it’s not like I’m not trying, it

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/Melimelo3220 on 2023-10-06 20:36:39.

I’ve been seeing this guy who I met 5 weeks ago and one of the things I like about him at the beginning was how he only had eyes for me, yesterday he asked me out and we just ended up at his place, playing chess and talking, we went for a walk after that and I noticed he checked out every girl who walked in front us, no a simple stare, but turning head and all that, he almost dislocated his neck in the process… I’m not a controlling type, but I’ve dated other guys who never done this, I have a big brother too, which never showed this behavior in front of his girlfriend, so I don’t think it’s acceptable to say it’s “ human behavior” When I am with someone, wh

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/Tumbleweed_Intrepid on 2023-10-06 18:36:53.

To start I turned 23 a few weeks ago and I’ve never had a girlfriend. The closest thing I’ve had to one was a girl who I was friends with for over 10 years developing feelings for me in high school but I didn’t want to date her because we grew up together and I didn’t see her that way. That was when I was 17 and since then it all went downhill.

I’m not sure what I am doing wrong and it is frustrating to see other guys who are fat, jobless, dickheads, or some combination of those get girls with ease and I don’t know wtf I’m doing wrong. I’m not the most psychically attractive guy in the world but I’m still in good shape and nothing is horribly wrong with

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/3CH0SG1 on 2023-10-06 15:42:47.

I'm just sick of all the games and smacking my head on the wall. Anybody else feel the same? It seems like everyone is already taken or just wants to die alone.

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/helpfulguy2 on 2023-10-06 19:36:18.

I am male 6’0’ slim fit. Long story short last week, this girl I am dating told me I should put on more muscle mass I’m too skinny. Other than this she has green flags all around.

However knowing I am physically not her type, makes me feel like she is settling for me. I felt a bit disrespected, how should I handle this?

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/stevow- on 2023-10-06 15:44:15.

Today is one month from knowing each others. Do you guys generally hold hands while dating this early?

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/One-Influence9883 on 2023-10-06 00:50:19.

Original Title: A guy I’m dating told me he doesn’t usually go for girls of my background(ethnicity) preference wise. But he is very attracted to me. I’m still not sure how to feel and I’m not sure if I should call things off or am I being dramatic?

Out of curiosity when he told me this, I went on his Instagram to see who he is following; I did this just to get a general feel of what his usual type would be. And it’s the total opposite of me, not even close.

I feel weird but not sure what to do It seems to be bothering me though.

EDIT: He didn’t randomly say it, we were on a topic about Race already

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/RoyalKaleidoscope727 on 2023-10-06 17:38:41.

Hi everyonr,

I'm far too short and unattractive for apps to work and approaching women at bars or in my day to day has been less than unsuccessful. What hobbies should I look into to find women that are more sapiosexual, so my looks won't be as much of a deal-breaker

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/Defiant-Laugh-924 on 2023-10-06 14:16:57.

I’m asking this as a straight male. Basically I guess the question can be rephrased to “how to flirt”, but most of the answers to that question on Reddit, including this subreddit, have basically just been stuff like “talk to them as if they’re normal humans, make them laugh, etc.” which is good advice and all but that’s also how you talk to people you only see as friends too, so how do you say flirty things in a way you wouldn’t with someone you only saw platonically?

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/3gregious1 on 2023-10-06 14:01:05.

I go to university with this girl, she was on my corridor and I had a massive crush on her from day one. We spent a year together where we played games/watched films every night, she even asked me to be her date to a dance. I held her hand and linked arms with her, but for some stupid reason I still thought we were only platonic (I have a really hard time reading body language and stuff). She also went out of her way to touch me - arms around my neck, head on my shoulder - but I still thought it was platonic.

A year passed like this and she finally spoke to me frankly and said 'I'm romantically interested in you, are you interested in me? If so, hurry up because

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/More_Amphibian_8792 on 2023-10-06 12:54:51.

My friend and I were playing games one night while calling when I noticed that he felt a bit down that night.. I asked him whats wrong and he says hes been having issues with his girlfriend. As someone who loves giving advice, I gladly offered to hear him out and see if I could help him out with it. Throughout the talk, I was understanding his perspective and was agreeing with him most of the time.

This made him say things like “oh you know me so much better than my girlfriend” , “why cant my girlfriend be like you” , etc..

but the thing that caught me very off guard was when he said “i feel like we’re right person wrong timing”… that felt odd to me but I just

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/Pitiful_Sentence_148 on 2023-10-05 21:56:47.

There was a guy I was seeing a while ago who I really liked, we hadn't ever slept together, just hung out a few times. One night we were drinking and talking and got onto the topic of amber heard and johnny depp as it was current at the time. I explained that i sympathised with amber as in the past, I had been raped and therefore felt a sense of empathy towards her as a woman etc. didn't go into much detail at all, if any, but that night when we went to bed he didn't seem to want to sleep with me despite indicating he had earlier. The next day I left and we didn't talk again. Last week I ran into him and we ended up having a catch up, I men

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The original was posted on /r/dating_advice by /u/duckeatsbird on 2023-10-06 00:26:57.

I (20F) met this guy (23M) on tinder a week ago, he's very awkward and dorky - but super sweet (writes out my likes and dislikes on his notes app to remember) and he's (in his own words) very inexperienced with dating. From what I know he's only dated one person, and hasn't done really anything sexually. We went out on Sunday, he brought me flowers and we got dinner, went to the arcade, and got dessert. He was super nervous during this but I still had a good time. We facetime basically everynight for several hours after going out Sunday, he also messages me all day. We went out yesterday and at the end of the date he asked me to be his girlfriend, which I think