It was amazing! I've chosen my friends really well. I came out to 7/8 close friends, who are really the only people about whose acceptance I really care. And everyone of them didn't for a single second doubt my experience and made perfectly clear, that they'll support me on my journey, however I want to proceed.
Only one friend to tell left, but there really isn't any fear left of how she'd react. Before I've been rather anxious I'd find out there are bigots among them, but they've proven me wrong <3. It feels so incredibly good right now to realise I won't ever have to wear that fucking man mask again, at least in front of them.
Ups, ja genau, Ersteres. Vier sehr liebe Menschen wissen bereits, dass ich eine Frau bin. Heute bzw. im Laufe der Woche noch vier weitere enge Freunde, dann ist es allen bekannt, bei denen mir die Akzeptanz sehr wichtig ist.
€: 5 Personen wissen Bescheid, mein bester Freund hat es (mit Einverständnis) seiner Frau erzählt.
Das traurige ist, jeder einzelne von ihnen ist Opfer dieser Sekte.
Verstehe natürlich, dass das nur so daher gesagt war, aber Aggression füttert auch nur dieses Bild von der bösen Welt. Das Beste was man dem entgegensetzen kann, ist aufrichtig und nett sein - das Narrativ nicht bedienen.
Sorgen braucht man sich um mich keine mehr machen, danke. Bin zurzeit wahnsinnig ausgeglichen, habe meine ersten 4 Coming-Outs hinter mir, welche alle sehr gut verlaufen sind. Zum ersten Mal kann ich mir eine Zukunft vorstellen, in der ich wirklich aus tiefstem Herzen glücklich bin. Falsch, ich bin es schon.
Ist schätze ich auch noch zu früh, sich da ein Urteil zu bilden. Auf Testosteron hätte ich wirklich gerne verzichtet.
Drogen sind ein sehr gefährliches Spiel und können Leben zerstören. Doch sie sind auch da für Menschen, die aus welchen Gründen auch immer nicht in der Lage sind, ihre Probleme auf die "richtige" Art zu addressieren. Ich für meinen Teil bereue da wenig, aber habe vor allem im Rahmen einer Suchttherapie auch genug Menschen kennen gelernt, für die Drogen der schlimmste Fehler ihres Lebens war (für den überwiegenden Großteil war das Alkohol, mal so am Rande).
Aber sollte vielleicht noch abklären, ob bei dem Thema Zurückhaltung erwünscht ist, bevor es da wirklich tief reingeht...
Can't remember ever hearing of discussions about whether it was nails or rope, but the no cross thing absolutely.
I'm quiet certain that the actual reason for beliefs like that is just to enforce the idea in their minds, that they're different, better and the only real christians.
You wrote "I believe that", btw, thought you might want to edit that :')
I’m on blahaj, so I wouldn’t see downvotes anyway (they’re not federated)
Huh, wasn't aware, good to know.
Well, you've definitely thought about all that for way more than I have, I'm still pretty new to this journey. I do feel a strong desire to pass at some point, but I'm not sure what to make of it at this time.
the blame really belongs on the bigots and their bigotry
That's something we can absolutely agree on and shouldn't forget. We are in this together.
I hope you get well soon and wish you the best. And if you'd like, I'll leave you a virtual hug 🫂.
Something happened which I didn't believe was possible a few weeks ago: I've reached the light at the end of the tunnel. Reconnected with and embraced the woman I've hidden deep down inside myself when my surroundings told me I'm a man. She was so scared and alone all her life. Now she's me and I'm her and we're in love.
And that's all thanks to this wonderful community, which I could observe, learn from, and finally felt safe enough to start my own journey. It's the single best thing that's ever happened to me and I'll forever be thankful for that.
I'm sorry you had to go through this and hope you can feel safe here again. It's not easy to deal with a feeling of being pushed into a corner. I'd like to point out that there seems to have been some consensus on giving you the benefit of the doubt, you haven't been down-voted after all. Personally I had a bad feeling about that first comment, but wasn't sure enough to comment.
Communication can be really hard, especially if all you have is words, especially when writing to strangers... I'm often very anxious myself about how to write, it's even in my profile, kinda like a safety net, in case I fuck up. €: Don't mean to imply you fucked up - it's been a misunderstanding!
because such validation would in turn invalidate all non-conforming identities
I wasn't entirely clear there myself. I'd think the bigoted part of our society would likely use this to invalidate everyone who is non-binary.
Awe, I love you sister , glad I could help <3