Abolition of Gender won't happen overnight. There are much bigger fish to fry than trans people feeling good about themselves. As long as we live in a society with gender roles those roles will have an impact on everyone. Abolishing those roles will make everyone happier, but in the meantime enjoy your gender whatever it happens to be and don't let it make you feel bad.
Things you can say to a Cardasian that you can't say to a Romulan!