As a person who figured out I'm not entirely cis partially because of feeling exactly this way, I just wanted to let you know you may want to look into non-binary identities.
Correcting people about your gender is "lecturing people about gender pronouns" now? Really? Seems to me like a lot of men need to be less fragile. What snowflakes.
If you're only looking for videos of two or more real people fucking, that may be true. But for other kinds of porn (hentai, erotica, audio porn, solo), there seem to be plenty of posters who do it just for the love of the game, so to speak.
These alleged high standards women hold are largely imaginary. It's only kind of like that on dating apps, and that's because they're 80% male, so women HAVE to be picky.
I'd say it's not terrible if you have some experience with TTRPGs and use Pathbuilder (a free character-building site/app). That said, I obsessively research and follow guides while making my characters, so I might not be the best source on vibes-based character creation.
Eh. We know violent video games don't cause violence, so I see no reason to assume porn works any differently. Fair enough if that's not your thing, though.
There's nothing inherently wrong with watching porn. Most people do. For the most part, it's a normal and healthy expression of sexuality. As long as you understand that porn is fiction and bears about as much resemblance to real sex as the Fast and Furious movies do to real driving, you should be fine.
There's nothing inherently wrong with watching someone be degraded either, as long as you understand that porn is fantasy, the people in the video are acting, and you should never do anything like that IRL without consent.
Come on. A lot of men being shitty doesn't justify violating the privacy of every man you're interested in. If you made this argument about ethnic or religious groups with higher-than-average crime rates, you'd rightly be panned for it. I'm a woman and I think this is awful.
I really need to check out Peertube.