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Also to add.
Can mods/admin stop making big changes to the site without posing the question to the community? Can this be written in big bold font somewhere? Was nothing learned during the vcj incident?
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It needs to be an unamendable part of the Hexbear constitution. Never have these unilateral efforts gone smoothly for those implementing them or being subjected to them.
Like if something is deadass a major problem with the site, pitch you case for changing what is wrong. This site is full of good people who want it to constantly change for the better
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This site is full of good people who want it to constantly change for the better
The mods don't seem to have faith in this for some reason.
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I am a mod
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Like if something is deadass a major problem with the site, pitch you case for changing what is wrong.
And site examples so users actually know where the line is and why something is problematic. Can't learn anything by just scolding and effectively saying "you know what they did wrong"
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Being told "you should know what you did wrong" has been a line I've been told before, and I've been alienated by people when I LITERALLY have no idea what I did, I'm fucking autistic and I am being very honest in that I WANT to know what I did and do better but sometimes I just don't pick up on what exactly that is. Like everything I do could be wrong! This kind of thing has been bery triggering for me in the past. Obviously there will be issues that are self evident but sometimes they aren't and I think it should be taken in good faith that when people ask for examples they really aren't trying to be antagonistic.
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I've been alienated by people when I LITERALLY have no idea what I did, I'm fucking autistic and I am being very honest in that I WANT to know what I did and do better but sometimes I just don't pick up on what exactly that is. Like everything I do could be wrong!
💔 feel this so much.
it's really honestly scary to have come to depend on the friendships I've made in this place and then realize that it could be taken away on somebody else's whim.
it makes me wonder what is the point in putting myself out there at all, you know? 😭
anybody reading this, please don't temp ban me for saying this. I'm 42 fucking years old, I'm perfectly fucking capable of deciding when I need a break, thank you. what I need is a safe place to be an autistic leftist with a trans son.
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I'm sure everyone with a temp ban will come back with a whole fresh new perspective and will see things entirely how the mods do after being kicked off and not having any complaints addressed. I'm sure it won't lead to some just not coming back. I wouldn't want to after being treated like that
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me neither, which makes me very sad. those are good comrades. the world is a fuck, we need all the good comrades we can get.
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Yeah and they shouldn't have to come back with their tails between their legs after being made to go stand in the corner cause they got too snippy.
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it makes me wonder what is the point in putting myself out there at all, you know? 😭
Fuckin same. After years of failed relationships and many blowing up in my face back to back, I mostly avoid making new friends irl for fear of rejection now. Tbf a lot of my behavior was to blsme but also I didn't know I was autistic at the time and SO MUCH was miscommunication/perseveration/not understanding what's appropriate and people not being straightforward with me.
I literally just got a 6 month ban from a ND discord chat I was part of for bringing up what I thought was an unfair ban in a super respectful way and that was hard, and so I came back here hoping for some community after all the election bullshit and now this. :/ I've also been dealing with a very similar problem at the job I've loved for years. Shady ass management stepping all over the workers, giving a million different fake excuses for a bunch of changes that are just destroying the org and making the frontline workers feel so demoralized and powerless. Not exactly the same but god damn it just feels like this is happening all over the place all at once.
I hope that things DO cool down after a few days and that this stuff is able to be addressed and not forgotten, and everyone lives happily ever after. But we will see.
I'm sorry that this seems to be taking an emotional toll on you
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was nothing learned during the vcj incident?
I mean yeah, this current struggle session is like part 2 or 3 of the exact same, ever developing struggle session about dunking
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It honestly feels like
Users:
"Please let us have a discussion if you plan on making any drastic changes to the site. We all know what's happened in previous ongoing giant struggle sessions"
Mods:
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It is shitty that the one of the many justifications for their actions are that the site is just shitposting/dunking and then they act like regular discord mods
It is, unfortunately, kinda really funny in an ironic way though
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then they act like regular discord mods
Hey now, let’s not be throwing around accusations of grooming
/s cos ya never know
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like 10%ish of the userbase is a mod. if you want change, sign up to be a mod and put in the work? idk its really easy to do. for trans people i literally add anyone thats trans and a regular user of the site to /c/traa. traa alone has 35 mods. youre acting like the whole mod team is just 4 people in wizard hats sitting in an ivory tower with zero discussion.
its impossible to know exactly how everyone is going to take every small change that must be done, and i feel like this is genuinely a really small change.
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its impossible to know exactly how everyone is going to take every small change that must be done
Have you tried asking them
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ok we're going to instate full direct democracy immediately, i am going to poll all of hexbear about whether or not we should ban some random guy over a weird comment, whether or not to approve a user every time someone signs up, every time there is some small technocratic rule change. we must become :vote: the website. deeply unserious. its hard enough to get even the most invested users to comment on shit and do shit until it blows up in some absurd way
people are also going at the transphobia angle a lot in this thread without realizing that almost a supermajority of the mod team is trans and wouldnt have included something blatantly transphobic (including the two people are irate with, carcosa and tc69), the context is just missing.
idk this is just all nonsense to me im going back to checking out
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the_dunk_tank in the past month is ranked; 6th users/month, 3rd posts, 2nd comments.
Ah yes changes to that comm are exactly like a site wide discussion on banning "some random guy over a weird comment".
Say the line Bart
"deeply unserious"
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It's fine for some decisions to be made by mods only, but keeping it quiet and rolling the changes out all at once when the decision is final seems to cause nothing but problems. It means the mods and admins are caught off guard when the users have strong objections, and have to scramble and backtrack to deal with the backlash. A heads-up about what changes were being discussed would have let the mods be aware of what complaints would be made while they were still in the decision making process. Then when the changes are made, they could already have measures ready to address the concerns, or at least consistent explanations of why the changes where necessary. Instead they had to quickly throw out multiple conflicting justifications, and added to the confusion.
If you're surprised the users saw this as more than a tiny change, an announcement that a discussion was happening could have given a warning of what to expect.
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its impossible to know exactly how everyone is going to take every small change that must be done, and i feel like this is genuinely a really small change.
Well it is pretty obvious from the reaction that it wasn't
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