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Hey all! We had a couple of glitches moving over but we're sorted now. If you couldn't see anything before please try [email protected] again

Thanks for bearing with us!

Hey all!

As you can see we've moved house to [email protected] If your account isnt on piefed youll see old posts in the old comm, and new in the new. If youre on piefed you can see old in the new. You can get help at [email protected] you can access it no matter what instance you're from. On jerboa I can't see much atm but interstellar shows it all 🤷‍♀️

In short, we'd had enough of members being upset by the Manosphere jumping in and being nasty. Advantages of blahaj are...

1. There's no downvoting, so people can't be harassed by downvote.
2. There's really heavy moderating, blahaj pre-emptively bans known trolls and has zero tolerance on discrimination.
3. Ada is fantastically supportive and really cares about creating a safe space.
4. With piefed we can transfer the comm.

Apologies for not putting it to a vote or giving you the heads up. I didn't want to give the Manosphere a c

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Helped your child learn a new manual skill? Set up something at work? Sorted a new make up technique? Whatever it is we wanna know!

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I'm in my 40s and really relate to this. Perimenopause is imminent, cost of living is awful, etc etc. What's your age brackets difficulties?

We all have a brand we can't live without! What's yours?

This is a women-only discussion community. If you do not identify as a women or fall under the umbrella cited in the community sidebar, then please refrain from posting or replying.

We're fighting a losing battle. This is a space where we are very clearly not wanted, and we cannot discuss women's issues without hostility.

Keep it limited to makeup and fashion, I guess, unless you want to be brigaded!

I'm over it. Let the boys have their playground. Lemmy is not a space that is welcoming to women, and, because of that, unless sweeping changes are made, I just don't see myself ever recommending it to any women as a good place to make a community.

I'm not going to contribute to its growth or content any longer. "PROGRESSIVE" space. Garbage. Absolute fucking hypocrisy. I'm so sick of having to explain myself and be made to feel like I need to justify my existence here.

Good luck, sisters. I'm desperate for community, but this feels more like a battleground than it doe

So, I'm pretty new to painting nails, and this is the second time I painted them ever.

I painted my nails 5 days ago and applied a top coat. I applied a second layer + top coat 4 days ago, since I managed to scratch the paint quite fast. The second layer only covered up the scratches. Today I realised, that the paint started to get this yellowish tone. Primarily around the areas where I applied a second layer.

Is there something I could have done to prevent this?

Edit: the different colors are all fromthe same brand (the top coat is from a different brand) and they all have this phenomenon).

So if this isn’t the right community for this I get it, and feel free to remove it (but please do let me know why, so I don’t make the same mistake in the future, the rules don’t really say what sort of content, and this feels pretty femme-centric)

Partially I need to vent and don’t have a great social network at the moment, and partially I’m looking for ways to handle.. not the situations (those I can mostly handle as ex-military, former wrestler, badass chick 💪), but the guilty uncomfortable awkward feelings. Those are new since I stopped trying so hard to mask and started experiencing myself more.

I bartend once a week at a bar and grill as the only employee of my shift (I also cook and it’s too much tbh), and I guess that used to be a lot easier, or maybe the places I was working were just… less likely to attract the sort of people this one does.. it’s sort of an older-crowd townie bar (I’m complimented on being highly competent, and I feel like I’m drowning), with a local heavy

There's a lot of societal expectations for women, and often we totally understandably end up meeting them cos we feel we have to. They also sometimes just don't happen for us. What's one you're glad you didn't meet?

but @LadyButterfly is killing it in my feed.

lazysoci.al comes under immense pressure at times due to bots scraping the site. As all data is federated, they can essentially target any instance, small or big and scrape most of lemmy.

Usually the server hosting lazysoci.al can keep up with it. Sometimes, like today, the response times of the site suffer and it triggers an alert.

If I'm at my PC (which is like 18 hours a day /nerd) then I'll add another rule to Cloudflare to target the bots. Today the response was to block Tencent's AS#, which is a LOT of IP addresses. I'll check later today if I've snagged a Lemmy instance on this range and make adjustments.

Today was slightly special though, as the sheer number of unique IP addresses was 781 (!!). Any sort of rate limiting on a per-IP/visitor basis is not going to get triggered when they have this number of IPs to play with.

Usually Lemmy doesn't use much RAM, but today the server had to use its swap-space due to the number of concurrent requests. **So I am going to double the

Women are taught to nurture and develop men. That's great, except sometimes trying puts you at risk, and it's often not reciprocated. Who here has got stuck in the past?

Women are often really hard on ourselves and it's really understandable. Society expects a lot of us, and women are seen badly for seeing themselves well.

Let's think positive! What's your favourite thing about you?